I have so enjoyed sharing my love of fashion with you over the past few months and I have some exciting news! We’re expanding! Stay tuned for outfit posts M/W/F, but please come back T/TH for new series where we will focus on wishlist items, shopping secrets, brands to know, and other fashion news! Subjects you’d like to read about? We’d love to hear about it-email email@example.com. We hope you love what we have in store for you, we love sharing this little spot on the internet with you!
Wishing us all a week of new things and amazing shoes! XO RA
I’ve been traveling for the past few weeks, which has meant great times with friends, amazing meals, and more than one glass of wine. And as fun as that can be, life is all about balance and I got to the point where I was looking forward to being home and detoxing. Working out, sleeping well, eating right. Juice, bone broth, and lots of veggies. Yoga, spinning, Pilates and a little bit more walking. Nothing intense, but a cleaning,letting myself rest, if you will. And it’s felt great. However, as popular as detoxes can be–there’s more than a just a juice that’s needed sometimes.
More than one friend of mine has recently read Marie Kondo’s “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” and I have to admit: I’m intrigued. Full disclosure: I haven’t read it yet; but if I understand the method behind it correctly I’m on board. My understanding is that the thought here is that we have so much in our lives-clothes, things, responsibilities, relationships–that really we keep things around that are just “good enough”, instead of holding out for, or really surrounding ourselves with things that we believe are beautiful and bring us joy. There’s a method Kondo uses to clear out the unwanted or passable items, making room for clothes, things, and relationships that truly bring us joy and fulfill us. And this, in my space of taking care of myself, has resonated.
So it’s not just been juice. I’ve been turning off the TV and reading. I’ve been thinking about the kind of life I want, the kind of woman I want to be–and beginning to cut out what doesn’t serve that. There’s been art and painting, sorting through and contemplating. I’ve been writing and thinking; shoe shopping and making choices based on what I love–and not what “will do”. I’m concentrating on what I want, and ignoring what I don’t. This is by no means a week fix, but I have to say–I’m loving the results.
I’d love to know, have you read the book? Done a detox? What are your thoughts?
Wishing us all a week of joy and amazing shoes! XO RA
They say that friends are some of the most important things in life–and while cliche sounding, it’s true. Recently I have had friends be generous with their time, their support, and their homes. No matter what happens in life it is beyond comforting to know that staying up late and chatting with a friend–or having a place to stay when you most need it–is simply a matter of calling a friend.
The love and support I have gotten from my friends recently got me thinking–adult friendships are so much more complex than the grade school friendships, where sometimes friendship was as simple as always being in the same class. So following are some of the lessons I’ve learned about being adult friends:
Friendships take as much effort as romantic relationships. Yes, they’re different but as adults we have different jobs, schedules, responsibilities, and time constraints. While spur-of-the-moment plans can happen families, jobs, etc often make that an impossibility. So you have to make time for each other. Check in, catch up. Make plans and stick to them. Forgive each other when you have to cancel, and understand when plans fall through. Can this be difficult? Yes, but having plans with a friend can make a long week bearable.
You will have different friends for different needs. Your friendships will rise and fall like waves. All of this is ok. Not every friendship is the bonded at the hip variety–sometimes it’s just the people you chat with at the gym every day. These relationships are no less important than your besties–they can still make your day. Also due to life friendships will crest, there are times when you can be super close and then lose touch–the good news is a good friend is a good friend, and no matter the distance always show up when they’re needed.
You can break-up with a friend and it can hurt worse than your worst romantic break-up. I’ve been there. And yes, as above, sometimes it’s just a crest–but sometimes the friendship has turned toxic. Sometimes we grow apart and aren’t treated as well as we should. Sometimes it’s a conversation and sometimes friends just fade away. If it was a close and important relationship it can hurt like hell. I recommend shopping and wine to get you through.
Your friends will experience life at a different pace than you –and that’s amazing. You may be the first to get married–or the last. Someone who put their career first or a stay-at-home-mom (still a job). While having a ton in common is always helpful, some of my most rewarding relationships are with women in different life places than I am. We can share experiences, say things without judgement, and learn from each other.
In short, I’m having a moment where I just can’t help but be bowled over by the amazing women and men in my life whom I am privileged enough to call friends. I’d love to know–what have you learned about friendship?
Wishing us all a week of great friends and amazing shoes! xo RA
Yesterday was National Handbag Day- yes, a made-up holiday, but that’s no reason not to celebrate. Right? Right. While I’m usually a shoes woman, there are special bags that get under your skin. For example, this Gucci stunner. I may have to break down and add it to my collection. I’d love to know – what’s your favorite bag? Which one are you eyeing for the season?
Wishing us all a week of amazing bags and stunning shoes! Xo RA
Can we be honest? We live in a world that makes it easy to get caught up in what you want, what you don’t have, and what’s wrong. There’s a time and a place for that, but again, honestly, we have so much to be grateful for–if you have running water and a roof over your head you’re rich, believe it or not. And while it’s easy to get caught up, I do my best to focus on the small things that I am grateful for. After all, a conversation with a dear friend reminded me–the small things matter a lot, and the more you’re grateful the more you have! Below are some small moments that meant a lot to me this week–I’d love to know, what are you grateful for today?
Wishing us all a week of blessings and amazing shoes! XO RA
Good morning coffee in my lucky pig mug
Rereading sweet notes and getting texts from dear friends
Cooler weather and Football!
Watching one of my all time favorite movies–I was Malecifent for Halloween before it was cool
Getting to spend time with my sister and visit Art Museums!
Homemade Paleo Banana Muffins that taste even better than they look!
If you’ve been following on Instagram (@racheladelicia) you know that my sister and I went on a road trip this week! We started in LA and made it all the way to TX to spend some time with family. Now, I’m usually not one for road trips but this trip may have changed my mind. It was so great to spend time with my sister, the Southwest was amazingly beautiful, and the drive was actually fun–we blasted music and sang and danced our way through the states. I truly enjoyed myself! In fact, I might be talked into doing it again.
I’d love to know–do you love road trips? What’s been your favorite vacation this summer?
Tomorrow my sister and I begin to road trip across the Southwest, from my base in LA to my base in TX. I’m sure there will be fights- over the radio, food, and hair dryer- but I can’t wait for the time alone with one of my favorite people. There’s nothing like spending time with your sister- the gossip, silliness, and someone else to laugh at your family with. Posts here will be up as usual, and follow along on Instagram (@racheladelicia), hashtags #R&Rroadtrip and #sistertravels!
Wishing us all a week of quality time and amazing shoes! XO RA
It’s August ( how can it be August already)!?! Summertime is both in full swing – long, hot days- and winding down – back to school commercials have started to air. Don’t get me wrong- I love summer, but as a football fan the closer we get to fall the more excited I get. My pro team is the Dallas Cowboys, and they hold their yearly training camp in Oxnard, not far from LA. Yet in all my years in LA I’ve never made it to camp- until this year! I spent yesterday afternoon watching practice- and while it was no game, it gave me the “football” feelings, and let me cross an item off of things I’ve always wanted to do in the summer.
Which got me thinking- with these few weeks left in the season, what else do I want to do? Beach trips, wine tasting, and homemade Popsicles come to mind. I’m making a list and would love to know- what’s on your summer bucket list?
Wishing us all a week of summer fun and amazing shoes! XO RA
In an episode of Sex and the City, the ladies visit LA where Samantha tempts Carrie with fake Fendi bags- conveniently sold out of the trunk of a guy in the Valley. Bags that look exactly like the real thing but for half (or less than half) the price? It does sound tempting- but Carrie opts to hold out for the real thing; her thinking being that even if the bag fooled everyone she would know it was fake, and she didn’t want fake. And while getting a steal is tempting – I side with Carrie on this one.
Is this an essay to persuade you that you should always shell out the bucks for the designer bag? Nope. I do believe in quality, and love saving and buying some of my designer things- but think quality can be found at any price and you have to do what is best for you- and if a fake bag makes you happy I say go for it. What I’ve been thinking about all the other things in life we fake- and whether or not we deserve more than Valley-trunk fakeness.
To an extent, we live in a world of knock-off, fast fashion just being one of the culprits. And I’m just as guilty: I’ve staged photos to get “likes” on Instagrams, I color my hair but want my stylist to make it look as natural as possible, and I’ve spun events in my life so that to people everything sounds amazing. Is this bad? The hair color is for sure great, and I’m not a fan of spilling my secrets to strangers; there is a truth to the saying “Fake it till ya make it”. So, good right?
Maybe. But, what I’ve been thinking is that maybe we spend a little too much effort on how things look like on the outside, and completely ignore the inside. To put it another way, if the bag looks designer on the outside does it count if it’s cracked and peeling on the inside? Some of the best nights of my life have been messy: crying , laughing, holding onto people I love. Not one picture from those nights would pass anyone’s Instagram standards. And while spinning events can be great–how amazing is it to open up to the people with whom you can be honest? The ones who ask who you are and you can honestly say “Sad” or “Scared” or “Abnormally excited” and have that be ok? Aren’t all those experiences, messy as they can be, just if not more amazing than having things look perfect?
Does this mean that I’m going to stop having things look nice, coloring my hair, or spinning to certain people? Nope. But, just like Carrie, I think that even if I’m the only one who knows it–I don’t want fake. So I’m making an effort to be more real–even if it’s messy and scary– and I’m trusting that it will be just as beautiful as the fake. I’d love to know–what’s your take on this?
Wishing us all a week of realness and amazing shoes! XO RA
Over the 4th of July I got to spend some time at my mom’s house. Being a good mom, she often saves articles for me from different papers she reads- one of the articles she saved this time was a piece on Emily Post, an Autobiography in Clothes, the premise being we could learn about the woman by looking at her clothes. I love clothes, clearly, and do think that what your wear can say a lot about you- as the saying goes, “Style is a way to say who you are without speaking”. But really, can our clothes say everything about us?
In reality I doubt the answer is black and white. There are things we wear because we have to (gym uniforms), things we wear to project who we want to be (power suits to meetings, etc), and things we wear that we don’t like (the sweater Grandma gives you at the holidays). Do these things tell who you are? Well, yes, actually. Those clothes show someone who follows the rules (or doesn’t), who strives to achieve things, and who cares about people’s feelings. And those are just things you don’t pick for yourself. So what about the clothes you do?
Above is my 8th grade prom dress, faded, but it still makes me smile. I vividly remember picking it out- I love a good party dress- and wanted something elegant and grown up, and this is what 13yo me picked. Would I buy it today? Maybe not, my definitions of elegant have changed some, but this dress can tell you about me. The princess dresses I wore as a kid, the closet of pencil skirts, designer heels, my favorite worn-in jeans- they all tell a little piece of who I am. And if clothes have this power to tell stories about us, should we be more aware of what we’re saying? Should this be a call to really let ourselves shine through our outfit choices?
I say yes. After all, you are what makes your clothes interesting. I’d love to know- what do your clothes say about you?
Wishing us all a week of clothes with stories and amazing shoes! XO RA