Sunday Chronicles: Is being effortless something you should aspire to?

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There is a myth, or ideal really, that most American women–especially those who love fashion adhere to; that being “French”, or effortless is something to aspire to being. That somehow to be able to throw on anything and have it look perfect,to have your hair fall perfectly everyday; that it is possible to not really try and that you will look perfect and things will work out. And here’s the thing–this is true sometimes. We all have days where our hair is somehow perfect, and no matter what we put on it looks great, our careers and relationships just seem to click and flow; and everything requires minimal effort. I do love effortless days–they make everything seem easy and doable.

On the other hand, the great Tom Ford has said “Dressing well is a form of good manners”. I’m not saying to dress well and being effortless are mutually exclusive–but as much as we strive for effortless, let’s be honest–we all experience the other side of the coin too. We all have days where we have to think about what we wear, try on many options–put effort into our clothes. We have days where we have to spend time on hair and make-up, maybe put in extra effort into our relationships and career because it is needed. Is this effort a bad thing? Hopefully it pays off– and let’s be honest , there are times when putting in the effort is fun, it feels good to try sometimes.

So are these the only two options–putting in effort or being effortless? Are there the types of people who have to try and those who don’t? I don’t have all the answers–I know, that bums me out too. I  do think that all of us are both of these types though. I believe that we are all capable of effortless days–and all have days where effort is required. Here’s the big epiphany- I don’t think that one is better than the other.  Days where everything from your t-shirt to hair to relationship and career just work are amazing and you should cherish them. Days where you have to think and try for your outfit, lipstick, conversations and meetings are also amazing and you should cherish them.

Maybe effort and effortless are two sides of the same coin; maybe we need one to appreciate the other. Maybe aspiring to effortless is something you should do; maybe trying, even trying too hard occasionally, is something you should do too. All I know is that both can feel good–and that both kinds of days can be good. So this is my wish for us all: great days this week–whether that means you have to put effort into your hair or not.

xo RA

 

 

 

 

Spring Transistion

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I spent some  time in TX over the Easter holiday and was amazed to find spring – not too hot, not too cold, and even caught a Tx thunderstorm . It was heavenly! And made me super grateful I had packed this white trench- a fresh take on a classic!

Trench- Zara

Dress-Anthropologie

Shoes- Rachel Zoe

Sunglasses- Chloe

 

 

 

Caped

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There’s a reason why capes have been a mainstay for the past few seasons–they are endlessly chic and comfortable. I bought this one on ebay, it’s supposed to be a dress, but on me it’s a tunic. Pairing it with ripped jeans leads an easy vibe and together I feel all pulled together.

Jeans: Jcrew

Top: Ebay

Clutch and broach : Vintage

Shoes: Loubiton

Sunglasses: Raybans

It’s a skirt, it’s pants, it’s super outfit!

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These 3.1 Phillip Lim pants are another closet staple! I love the way that they are a little avant-garde but are so comfortable. Again, they can be dressed up or down and look great with just a tshirt!

Pants: 3.1 Phillip Lim

Tshirt: Feel the Piece

Shoes: Paul Andrew

Clutch: Kate Spade

Sunglasses: Rayban

Wardrobe Workhorse

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I don’t like to play favorites in my closet; just like a mother, when asked I will tell you that I love all my clothes and shoes and bags equally. But if you press–there are some pieces that I turn to over and over again–like this denim jumpsuit. At first, I was not on board with the jumpsuit, but I cannot explain the versatility and comfort of this piece. I can dress it up or down, throw on scarves, jewelry–and the whole time feel as if I’m in pjs. It’s a win-win!

Jumpsuit: Zara

Shoes: flats: Manolo Blahnik Heels: Lamb

Sunglasses: Ray-ban

 

Sunday Chronicles

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Sunday Rituals

Whether you think of Sunday as the beginning of the week or the end of the week, Sundays seem to be day when people have routines that they stick to. Laundry and calling your family. Brunch and “Sunday Funday” with friends.  Relaxing and reading.In season, watching football (and I will try my hardest not to make this corner a football corner when that season comes!).  There is a comfort in knowing what to do and expect on a day of the week–and hopefully you get some rest in there too!

I love Sundays–and yes, I fall into the football ritual group. No matter what I do on Sundays though, I try to take a good half hour to myself. I’m a planner and a list maker (other rituals that bring me comfort), and I like to plan out my week. I know that things will always pop up, but having an idea of what I need to get done always clears my mind–and makes starting the week less stressful.

I’d love to know–what are some of your Sunday rituals?