Sky Blue

a woman in a strapless blue dress in front a grey walla woman in a blue strapless dress in front of a grey wall
a woman in a strapless blue dress in front of a grey wall
a woman in a strapless blue dress in front of a grey wall
a close up of a woman in a blue dress and sandals in front of a grey wall

Last week was a WEEK. My birthday. My mom’s birthday. Some family birthdays. Family events. It was amazing- dinners, meet ups, celebrations. And exhausting- dinners, meet ups, celebrations. Not to mention the travel for all of those and the being “on” for all of those. Most things have a duality – even the good things. I wrote yesterday about things speeding up ( if you missed it, you can read it here) and they are- this month is full of non-stop events for me (and I’m sure for you too, there’s a reason why we all post vacation looks now! We all need one 😂).

I wore this dress on my (actual) birthday. And as for crazy weeks go, my day was a great one- I went to my favorite Pilates class,spent time with my faves, took myself to lunch- and snapped these pics randomly. As much as I wanted to share this dress with you, I will admit I didn’t know what to say. It’s not exactly the same as I felt here but I’ll be honest as much as I LOVE this dress (and have plans to wear it again and again) and as much as I’m happy with these pics (yes, a photo shoot taken in the middle of a day that was personal), when I went to tell you ALL the things all I could think of was that this dress is silk, has cutouts and HAS POCKETS!

All important things.
And yet, that didn’t feel like enough to say over and over again in a post. Pockets are exciting, but maybe not enough to write a whole post about (yes, I do always worry about that).

Then. This past weekend, I went to a family Celebration of Life for a passed family member, and I took a picture of the sky. It was nothing special- just the blue sky and some clouds. I had already decided to call this post “Blue Sky” and when I asked my mom for any notes or ideas on this dress/post, the only thing she mentioned was that it reminded her of the sky on our trip. I knew it was a sign.

As is blue sky. Usually blue skies are a sign of all the good things to come. That struggle or the storm is over. Blue skies are a good omen. So what does a good dress mean- especially one that made me feel special, that has pockets, that is the color of a special sort of hope- the color of blue sky?.
(I’m a special kind of grammar nerd and I’m not sure how to punctuate that sentence!)

So. What do blue skies mean to you? Or dresses with pockets? Or the dresses that make you feel special? The ones that you wear on special days to mark it or to celebrate all the good things you wish for?

I want to know all about those dresses, about your colors that mean good things are coming, and the good things you do believe you’ll find or are coming for all of us in the next season!

I’ve linked this exact dress and almost the exact same sandals. I hope you wear them on a day with blue skies and one that brings you only great things!
xo RA

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a woman in blue dress in front of a grey wall

Sunday Chronicles: Speeding Up

a woman in an exercise dress and sneakers running on a trail

Has anyone else felt aid things have sped up all of a sudden? And yes, the world is so much more open than it’s been in the past few years, and yes, I’m adjusting to that. And yes, this time of year is always packed-between birthdays, graduations, and the beginning of wedding season. Every day in May I know someone who’s birthday it is- and we’re talking about personal relationships, not just acquaintances. It’s a busy time of year and we all have a ton going on.

Yet, it feels that things are speeding up, above and beyond all the reasons listed above. Being busy and having plans is great, and yes, after a few years I’m excited to see my friends and do things.

But.

When things speed up, especially when they seem to speed up incredibly quickly, I can get a bit anxious. I want to do ALL the things, but I’m also one of those that needs alone time. I want to get my work done and grow, but I don’t want to do rushed work. In all honesty, I’m also still incredibly overtired, from being ill this January, from all the things, from speeding up. So, while I want all the plans and the growth, as things speed up, I’m trying to balance the speed with rest. Balance doing all the things with doing all the things well, spending time with everyone and making sure that it’s quality time.

Balance, especially when it involves finding the right speed can be difficult. Or it is for me.

In general, I think that we are all obsessed with speed. We like things fast, now, and hate waiting. My impatience feels that. And as speed is something that we can measure, speed – or how fast things are happening or others or how fast others can go- is an easy way to compare ourselves to others. And we know what they say about comparison (it’s the thief of joy).

I’m aware of all of this, and am also aware that when things speed up I put a lot of pressure on myself to do all the things. Which makes the balance much more difficult. So, these are a few things that I’m doing to make sure that I’m both speeding up and going at a pace that works for me:

-I’m scheduling down days. For me, I’m still needing more days off than I normally would and instead of judging that, I’m attempting to give myself what I need. This means there are times I say no to plans, times I rest instead of working out, and times when I occasionally ask for more time on projects.

-I’m trying to say “yes” to the plans that really excite me or serve a purpose. And while there are events that I can’t say “no” to, I’m attempting to be incredibly intentional with my schedule so that when I’m running around it’s fun- not a chore.

-I’m going with the flow as much as I can. Sometimes that means having to cancel. Sometimes that means saying yes at the last minute. Much of the time, it means listening to what I need, making sure I have buffer time, and trying to not feel guilty for any of it.

Both the speed and the balance are works in progress.

How are you dealing with things speeding up? Do you need to schedule down time or are you adjusting well? I would love to hear all your tips and how you do your schedule!

Wishing us all a week of appropriate speed and amazing shoes! XO RA

Rose Garden

a woman in a green silk wrap dress with pink roses stands on a stone staircase
a woman in a green silk wrap dress with pink roses stands on a stone staircase
a woman in a green silk wrap dress with pink roses stands on a stone staircase
a woman in a green silk wrap dress with pink roses stands on a stone staircase

When I was little, my mom used to quote me an “old” song Rose Garden by Lynn Anderson:

I beg your pardon
I never promised you a rose garden
Along with the sunshine
There’s gotta be a little rain sometime
When you take you gotta give so live and let live or let go
Oh-whoa-whoa-whoa
I beg your pardon
I never promised you a rose garden

(And it goes on. Highly recommend, it’s super catchy!)

As a kid, I liked it, though I probably didn’t “get” all of it- like the whole relationships have ups and downs, and not being perfect is aok. As a teenager, while Rose Garden was still catchy, I didn’t like it as much- because it was my teen years that my perfectionist tendencies really came out.
Yes. I’m still fighting them today.
It’s not that I don’t understand that there truly is no thing as perfect, and that everything will go to plan all the time. It’s that I want things to be perfect and to go to plan, from outfits to pictures to social interactions. I can forgive you any “imperfection” but have a hard time extending that grace to me.
In fact, why most pictures here on the blog (IG is a bit different) are from shoots is that I really expect every outfit, shot, look to be perfect- and that’s easier to control on a shoot. So the few times that I can let go and just shoot what I’m wearing in the wild? Completely out of my comfort zone and yet completely a blast.

We can debate if it’s ironic that I did it this time in a dress that is essentially a rose garden.

a woman in a green silk dress with pink roses on it, close up of floral rings
selfie of a woman in a green silk dress with pink roses
a woman with a glass of champagne in a green silk dress with pink roses on it
a woman in a green silk dress with pink roses

This was the dress I wore to Mother’s Day dinner with my family (I told everyone all night that I was on theme as my mother’s name is a form of Rose!). It’s a vintage, silk Flora Kung (we will be chatting about this designed in the future!), and all of the pictures here are ones taken at our celebration. I made my sister do an impromptu photo shoot on the stairs outside the restaurant. (isn’t she great?!?) I took selfies and close-ups throughout the night. And while I can look at some of these pictures and wish that they were slightly different, shooting “as is”, was fun. It made the night a little more exciting. I also had to trust that these pictures would work- the good ones and the bad.

It’s a lot like the Rose Garden song- perhaps the take away is that I need a little bit of control and out of control. By no means will I stop with photo shoots, but perhaps I can open up my rose garden (practicing my puns for Father’s Day ;)) to impromptu shoots. Maybe both make a beautiful garden.

What about you? Do you like to have a bit of control or are you completely comfortable doing things on the fly? How do you handle the balance in that- the good and the bad? And – do you remember the song “Rose Garden”?

a woman on a stone staircase in a green silk dress with pink roses

Some Style Notes:
-The silk in this Flora Kung dress is just exquisite. Highly recommend!
-You can’t always get the perfect size in vintage shopping, this dress is a little big (it’s a size Small) but the cut is still incredibly flattering
-Shoes are my beloved Sarah Flint’s, you can use code SARAHFLINT-BAINVESTMENTPIECE for $50 off your own pair
-Below I’ve linked some Flora Kung I’ve found for you and some contemporary floral pieces for your shopping pleasure.

Hoping that your weekend and your garden get what they need this weekend! XO RA

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Designer Spotlight: Ossie Clark

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There are certain designers so infamous that they have their own cult following, on top of the fame that the brand demands. Ossie Clark is one of them; I have a girlfriend and we spend a good chunk of our weeks DMing Ossie Clark pictures to each other on Instagram. His designs are that iconic, swoon worthy, and shareable.

What should you know about Ossie Clark? That he designed for the rich and famous? That he’s considered responsible for “bohemian” dresses? The Swinging Sixties? That he’s the English answer to YSL? Yes, all of that, and more.
Investment Piece: Designer Spotlight: Ossie Clark

Ossie was born Raymond Clark in England, 1942. He began making clothes for dolls and the neighborhood girls before he was 10. Through the encouragement of the art teacher at this school, Ossie found fashion; and poured over the Vogue and Bazaar his teacher gave him. Ossie also studied architecture, and the fundamentals of proportion, height, and volume would become paramount to his career as a fashion designer. After his basic schooling, Ossie studied at the Regional College of Art in Manchester. (Note, Ossie’s commute to school was so long his mother gave him pills to stay awake, beginning Ossie’s life long struggle with drug use). During his college days at Manchester, he met and fell in love with Celia Birtwell, and became great friends with David Hockney. Both relationships would be profoundly important in Ossie’s life.

After completing school in Manchester, Ossie attended the Royal College of Art in London. Here, Ossie used the influences of pop art and Hollywood Glamour to design a line (first carried by Woodlands 21). Ossie’s career was then on the fast track, he got his first feature in Vogue in August of 65; and was asked by Alice Pollock to be the co-designer at Quorum. Ossie partnered with his muse, and future wife, Celia Birtwell, who did the prints/fabrics while Ossie did the designing/cutting/patterns. Ossie Clark became synonymous with free following, prints, muted colors, crepe fabrics, snakeskin jackets; as well as the celebrities he dressed: Bianca Jagger (her wedding dress), the Beatles, Marianne Faithful, Liza Minnelli, among others.

When you think of Sixities Fashion you may think mod-the miniskirts, the shifts, the go-go boots. Ossie changed that. He designed to flatter a woman’s body. As the Telegraph put it:
“The square cut, mini shift dresses that projected an adolescent, coltish figure, all knees and elbows, gave way to a sinuous shape lines that celebrated women’s curves. The typical Clark gown boasted the sensuousness of the female form: the arched small of the back, the rounded haunch, an impossibly long neck, a rangy thigh, all slip sliding against satin or matte jersey.”

What I think of when I think of an Ossie Clark piece are the details: buttons, sleeves that puff or flare, the illusion of floating but the impeccable tailoring, the feel that the piece could be from the 40s, 70s, or today. Ossie Clark designs are a true collectors item, and make the woman wearing it look exquisite.

Investment Piece: Designer Spotlight: Ossie Clark
Investemnt Piece: Designer Spotlight: Ossie Clark

Ossie Clark was a “true” artist and creative: obsessed with art and music, not great at business ends, and he was given to bouts of depression (made worse by his drug use). His clothes and line were groundbreaking in many ways: they changed the shape of fashion, his was the first line to feature black models in their runway shows (in the UK), and his love life was the source of great joy and sorrow. Ossie married Celia Birtwell (they would have 2 kids, which by all accounts were the loves of his life), and when they divorced it ruined Ossie in many ways. His line went in and out of bankruptcy; the 70s gave way to Punk Rock and Vivenne Westwood, making Ossie obsolete. He had love affairs with both men and women, and finally seemed to be pulling himself together cutting patterns for Ghost Label, when he was stabbed to death by an ex-lover in 1996.

While his life read like the Hollywoof movies he so loved, what we should take away from Ossie Clark is the love and joy that he put into his collections. You can find Ossie Clark on Etsy, 1stDibs and many high end vintage dealers. The price may be high, but if you get an Ossie, you’re getting a true work of art!

XO RA

Fashion Stories: Raiding Mom’s Closet

Today is my mom’s birthday. And tomorrow is mine! There have been a few posts over the years that have felt like “tradition” to post on our days and this is one of them. Today my mom (and sis and dad) will be headed to lunch- and I won’t be wearing this, though Mom did approve the dress! It feels great to be able to celebrate and mark our birthdays with fashion-because, like playing dress up with this number growing up, fashion (no matter how much mom and I differ) fashion is what can bring us together. Hoping you have a great Monday and that this post gives you some inspiration – even to raid your mom’s closet and restyle her pieces! xo RA

This post was originially just an outfit post. But even then, I knew that this vintage piece, from my mom’s closet was a story. And what’s that I’m always saying? Fashion is just a way to tell our stories. My mom wore this in her 20s. It was in my sister’s and my “dress up box” growing up. My sister and I have both worn it-to parties, as business wear, even as a costume. To me it tells the story of my mom’s hope and dreams, and how my sister and I carry that on. I am so fascinated by what we keep in our closets. And in this case, what we keep, use, and keep going back to. What’s in your closet?

Investment Piece: Raiding Momo's Closet
Investment Piece: Raiding Mom's Closet
Investment Piece: Raiding Mom's Closet
Investment Piece: Raiding Mom's Closet
Investment Piece: Raiding Mom's Closet
Investment Piece: Raiding Mom's Closet

As someone who loves vintage clothes, there’s a special place I love to go for vintage: Mom’s Closet. I don’t always get the chance to raid mom’s closet, but when I do, I think it’s magical. This dress/jacket set is from my mom’s wedding, it was her going away outfit. I love that she saved it, that she lets my sister and I wear it, and that it’s a vintage piece that lends itself to modern style. Everything about this vintage dress is great–the button detail, the drop waist (though I couldn’t resist belting it with this stunner), and the flair.

Here’s part of what I think is magical about fashion: it can transform itself and you. While this dress holds special meaning for my family, it’s easy to make this a “new” look”. The belt is a way to dress it up, and socks with shoes are one of my fave things ever. ( See here, here, and here for some examples). The look feels fresh, yet it’s an homage to my past. Raiding my Mom’s closet is one of my favorite things. I’d love to know: who’s closet do you love to raid? And how do you do your vintage?

The dress/jacket are from my mom’s closet
The socks are Gucci, the shoes Brian Atwood
The belt is vintage from RecessLa. Pics are by the amazing Megan Weaver!
I’ve picked some similar picks for you below!
XO RA

Mom’s Style

I’ve been posting this on my mom’s birthday for a few years now- it’s become tradition. Tomorrow is her big day (and today is Mother’s Day!). My mom and I are close, and yet different. However, as I get older I realize I’m more like her than I think, and I couldn’t be more grateful. Especially now, as some of us are apart from our families, I think about how the women in my life shaped me. I spent the past few years isolating with my mom- it wasn’t always easy, but I’m so grateful we did! Even though we spent the better part of the years not getting dressed up- I still learned about style from her over this past year. And yes, we’re getting dressed today! Hope whatever your relationship with moms are, today lands easy. Xo RA

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Loves! It’s my Momma’s birthday! If you haven’t caught on, my mom and I are close, and I can’t begin to describe how much I love her, and how appreciative I am for all she does for me. Mom is a CPA and teaches accounting, she’s our CFO, and while that’s completely different from her creative daughter who thinks shoes are a necessity (I mean I need shoes, I occasionally want to eat); Mom’s style has influenced me and helped me become the fashionista I am today. So, what did I learn from Mom’s style? Glad you asked!

Stay True to Your Style

No matter the trend or what “you’re supposed” to do, sticking to what you love and what works for you is something to be admired–and makes you look stunning! Mom is a big fan of navy. She is known for her love of navy suits, shoes, and bags. There are years when navy is “in” and years when we’ve had to search for navy for Mom. That doesn’t matter to Mom, even when the styles she loves aren’t in she sticks to them. There’s a classic-ness in that, a commitment. That’s not to say Mom doesn’t try new things, but I’ve learned that you don’t need to be a slave to trends, that sticking to things you love is something to be commended, and when you find something that fits you–hang onto it!

Proper Undergarments Matter

Mom and I have had a lot of events recently and at everyone Mom has mentioned that she thinks I might need a slip. (Side note: I have slips, I’m not great at wearing them) Here’s the thing though: Mom may have a point. Lining, slips, proper garments: our clothes fit better when we make sure these things are taken care of. Proper fit is important (Mom is big on that too) and to ensure that the fit flows, proper undergarments help. (And let’s be honest, no one likes the look of lines!)

Invest in Your Suit
Something Mom and I agree about whole heartedly? Your suit, be it an actual suit, jeans or yoga pants, is something to invest in. Mom, being an accountant, is a fan of actual suits and made it a point to invest in good ones each year. Now that she’s in a place where she’s good on suits, Mom is having fun filling her closet with tanks, tops and blouses (both classic and trendy) to wear with her suits. However, she’s always adamant that her suits are high quality, she checks seams and linings, that it’s where she spends her money. And loves, I agree–what you wear the most should be where you invest your money.

Don’t be Afraid to Accessorize

Mom is a more conservative dresser than I am, yes. However, Mom is not too conservative for a great accessory! I can’t remember a time when Mom didn’t leave the house without a scarf, jewelry, pins, or gloves. We do a high tea occasionally, and Mom is always on point with her hats (and gloves!). The lesson? You can always be playful, and the details are always a place to have fun!

While Mom and I may have different opinions about certain fashions, but my Mom has some amazing style, and I’m so grateful she taught me all she knows!

Have some champagne to celebrate!

XO RA

Black, White, and Green All Over

a woman in a lush green setting wears a white with black polka dot bathing suit with a sheer black skirt over and a straw hat
a woman in a lush green setting wears a white with black polka dot bathing suit with a sheer black skirt over and a straw hat
a woman in a lush green setting wears a white with black polka dot bathing suit with a sheer black skirt over and a straw hat

We’re at a weekend in May that, for me, starts all sorts of vacations. Or at least a vacation mindset. It’s the weekend for a lot of graduations. And of course Mother’s Day. For me and my family, it’s also the weekend (or this year the Monday and Tuesday after Mother’s Day) of my mother’s and my own birthdays (Monday and Tuesday, respectively). Essentially, for me, this weekend and the following few days, are full of celebrations, dinners, and great outfits. Exactly the kind of thing that puts you in the vacation mindset.

And what’s a vacation without a swimsuit? Or, perhaps I should say that this is the weekend that I want to start wearing swimsuits with everything. Especially swimsuits that double as a bodysuit, with a chic skirt and a hat (this green lushness is my backyard but I’m convinced this outfit will look just as great in jungles and by pools and seasides alike).

Yet- with all of this vacation mindset (and swimsuits), this is also a time when I stick to classics- maybe it’s all the time with my mom (which I love), or maybe it’s the classics let you play a bit more (aka classic colors and polka dots with a sheer like skirt).

It’s Black, White, and Green all Over.

a woman in a lush green setting wears a white with black polka dot bathing suit with a sheer black skirt over and a straw hat
a woman in a lush green setting wears a white with black polka dot bathing suit with a sheer black skirt over and a straw hat

I’m looking forward to the upcoming summer months. And vacations. And wearing swimsuits with everything. And there’s a part of me that’s looking forward to having a weekend that’s a bit more classical. Am I the only one who’s was reminded of Dr. Seuss with this title? This big birthday weekend always makes me think about my childhood and what I want for the next year. As a kid I loved Dr. Seuss, in fact the night that my little sister was born, when my parents dropped me off with a family friend, I made the mom of the family read Green Eggs and Ham to me at least 100 times (if not 100 times more than that). The thing is- I love a classic. And I love mixing a classic up- aka wearing swim suits with everything. In the coming year, I hope that there’s a lot of both. Classics. Mixing it up. Trying new things. sticking to what works. Finding things that make em smile.

This weekend I’ll be in IG a lot, sharing our celebrations, sharing what I’m wearing, both classic and with a twist. And I’ll be spending the next few weeks thinking and planning where all I can wear a swim suit. Especially the white and black ones. Especially where it’s green!

Wishing you and yours a happy Mother’s Day, or that it lands gently for you, and hoping that your classics pair well with all your twists. Linking this outfit below for your shopping pleasure!

XO RA

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A woman in lists, green background with a black and white polka dots with a black sheer skirt and a straw hat

Birthday Wishlist

A blonde woman in a pink, blue, green and blue velvet gown in front of a wrought iron gate and green space

Every year for my birthday (which is next Tuesday, 5/10) I make a wishlist. Actually, I always have a wishlist and shopping list going – but it gets worse (or longer) around my birthday. It’s part wanting to make sure that my loved ones are up to date on my current tastes and wants (my sister calls this control, I call this smart) and part shoring up my own list. (Also part excuse to get myself something VERY special) But as I went to share my wishlist with you, I began to really sit and think about why I make a wishlist. I do it for every season, and to be honest I haven’t even really gotten started on my spring wishlist, stoppable ).

Though I did get my hands on those gold sandals- seen here.

And when I look back at this spring’s wishlist, and the wishlists from seasons past, I’ve realized that while my wishlists are always a shopping list (and I will tell you that shopping with a list is always best!), really my wishlists are always a wish for the season. What I want to do. Who I want to be. How I always come to those realizations is through clothes (and shoes).

When I ve help but want ALL the party dresses I know that I might need a night out. When I think about workout clothes, there’s often a gym schedule I want to stick to. But often, my wishlists can let me go a bit deeper than that. When I make my wishlists, or like an outfit, I don’t just like it- I imagine myself in it, I think about all the things I’ll do it.

For example, when I saw this outfit:

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I didn’t just think about how I LOVE the color and the cut, and the cheekiness of a ball skirt with a crop top. I thought about how great it would look at those parties that border the causal/fancy line. This summer I have both a garden champagne toast and the possibility of a museum “night out” (aka drinks and dancing with art) and I think this outfit would be perfect. It also enshrines how I hope to look in the coming season- confident, back out there, a bit brave, and right on the edge of classic and edgy. A lot for one outfit? Perhaps. Or maybe that’s the point of a wishlist- putting out there what we want to be, in the hope that an outfit can help us realize that.

(Also- I know that no one outfit will completely change you or your life. But I do think outfits help! That is maybe a longer conversation we need to have some time!)

What does this all mean for my birthday wishlist? There is some overlap from my spring wishlist. I’m attracted to sets right now- both for elegant work looks and party looks. I’ve never been one to show off my midriff but I’ve been drawn to crop tops (a sign I’m looking for confidence?). But overall, my wishlist is a list of outfits that will get me back out there, make my workwear a bit more elevated, and are incredibly special. With those outfits in closet, I’m looking for a year of moving forward, deepening connections, and really going after what I want. Good thing that they make shoes for that 😉

As I get new outfits, and have new experiences, I can’t wait to share them with you here. What do you think of when you make a wishlist? Would you like me to share mine here?

XO RA

Short. Suit.

a woman in white shorts and blazer in front of a brick wall
 a woman in white shorts and blazers and platforms in front of a brick wall
a woman in white shorts and a blazer, platform shoes in front of a brick wall

We all know that I love a good juxtaposition. And I do. But the one I may love the most? A short suit. AKA a pair of shorts and a blazer- which bares the question- could any shorts and blazer be a suit? That may be a question for a much longer post, but what I do know is that I LOVE a good short suit. Try saying that 5 times fast.

This is where I let you know (as with every set) that with a suit that you can style every piece a million different ways- the shorts, the blazer – together, apart- all a million different ways.

But, a short suit is especially dear to my heart. Because it’s very professional. And very easy to style for a party.

Check out this video for more styling tips:

I do love this short suit as is (Aka I pinned the blazer to make it a top)
A woman in white shorts and a blazer in front of a brick wall

And then of course you could wear any top of your liking underneath the blazer (or with the shorts). I paired a silk shirt and switched my shoes from platforms to heels to elevate the look:

A woman in a silk shirt, white shorts and blazer, heels in front of a brick wall
a woman in a silk shirt, shorts and a blazer with heels in front a brick wall

This variation is perfect for any work (in the hotter months) event. Or any event where shorts may be appropriate but you need to elevate the look.
Of course the most versatile aspect of a short suit is that you can style any short suit for a part like:
a woman in white shorts and blazer with a black straless bathing suit and heels in front of green trees
A woman in a black sleeveless bathing suit, white shorts, a purple scarf and heels

Yep.That’s a short suit styled with a strapless bathing suit (scarf optional).

Short. Suits are one of my most favorite things, and vey en vouge, ad the encompass all of your casual needs while looking completely professional.

You can find short suits new. Vintage. Make your own with your favorite shorts and blazer. A short. suit. is what you make it. Perhaps that’s what I like most about it!
Below I’ve linked this short suit and other options, as well as shoes.
Note: These heels are my beloved Sarah Flint Perfect Sandals and you can get $50 off your own pair with code SARAHFLINT-BAINVESTMENTPIECE.

How are you wearing a short suit?
XO RA

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Sunday Chronicles: When it’s not PERFECT

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Loves, Happy Weekend! As you may know, I can be a perfectionist. I hold myself to a high standard, which manifests itself in various ways. I can have a great work ethic and produce things that are amazing. I can be paralyzed by the fear that things won’t be perfect and procrastinate, making sure that the “product” won’t be perfect (but I’ll have an excuse!). I can pick myself apart. I can admire other people’s work. Like most other perfectionists, I can tell you that it’s a great thing to want to hold yourself to a standard of excellence, but can tell you perfectionism is also an insercurity and an attempt to protect yourself. So, it’s great and not great. And one of the hardest lessons is how to move forward, do work, and be happy when it’s (whatever it is) not perfect. Loves, nothing is ever perfect (and yes, that’s hard for me to say), so how do we handle this?

I believe that this is where many people would tell you it’s the effort that counts, that good enough is good, and as perfection is an unattainable standard you do your best and be happy. Yes, all of that is true. It is still stunning to me how hard that is for me to at times accept. So how do I handle it? Loves, if we’re in the trust tree I have to let you know that the answer is not always well. I can waste time, money, and self peace in an attempt to “perfect” a project. And what I can tell you is that those things are not always worth it. So my new methods?

Give Myself Time
I’m finding if I can do posts/projects/etc early, spend some time away from them and come back, I’m either a-ok with what’s happened or I can “fix” it in a more productive manner. It’s the break that lets me have some space, and somehow that helps. And those times when I don’t have the time for that? I let go as best I can.

Mind Shift: vulnerable is more likable
There is something in my head that says that being perfect is the way to be liked (as broad as that can mean). It’s taking a lot of work, and a lot of more work, to discover that the best, real moments are the ones when I’m vulnerable. Does that mean that I don’t do my best? No. But it means I’m trying to not kill myself when I don’t have all the answers or something isn’t 180%. An acting coach of mine once told me that the audience wants to love you for all the things you’re embarrassed to show them. While this may not relate to every situation, I think it is true. Our humanness is raw and not perfect, but it’s beautiful.

Ask a loved one
When it’s hard for me to see that our humanness is beautiful I’m learning to ask someone I trust for their opinion. Often, their critique is not half as bad as my own. We could chat a whole other Chronicles on how hard it can be to ask for help, but I find another’s perspective is often what I need to end my manic pursuit of “perfect”.

Loves, this list is by no means complete, and it is by no means easy. It’s a process, and I’m learning. I’m striving to see that perfect is a great goal, but when I laser eye it, I miss so much. I’m learning that good is beautiful, and failures can be fun. I’m trying to be honest in my struggles and in my strive for perfection, be happy with great.

Are you a perfectionist? How do you deal with it?

Wishing us all a week of beautiful good and amazing shoes! XO RA