it’s the official kick off to the holidays in the States (or is that Halloween? According to the stores, we’re at NYE so I have no clue any more!) and it’s a season of joy and hope, acceptance for our neighbors. But it’s also one where I deeply feel any and all of my shortcomings. I still have these marks on my back (I did just get a new serum and will update you about it!), and while I want to wear backless things this season I felt some fear about that come up. So I went back to this. No matter what, I hope that this holiday season you wear things that make you happy- no matter what they show, no matter what people think, no matter what you fear. You are gorgeous. Including all your flaws. We all are.
Reread this one with me and let’s wear what we love! XO RA
She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.
Flawed. We all are, to some extent. And we live in a world that asks us to hide our flaws, especially in our fashion. How many articles have you read about dressing to hide your “problem areas”? There are whole theories of thought about how our arms as they age are “flawed” and should never be shown. Magazines, though not the only culprit, will let us know that if our parts aren’t “perfect”, we should do all we can to detract from that and showcase other body parts.
But, what if?
And hear me out on this,
What if we saw those “flawed” pieces of ourselves as something not to hide, but to celebrate. What if we could view our flaws as art, and not be concerned if our fashion showed them off?
I have back problems. (A little nerve damage) And as part of my therapies to manage pain and spasms, I often use heat, cupping, stretching, and strengthening. (Thank you, Pilates!) However, some of this can leave marks on my back, they can vary in color and pattern, but they can be very noticeable, and I thought of them as flaws. I’m a huge fan of low back numbers, but would avoid them so that no one would see my flaws.
What changed? I’m not sure. At this point I wish I could tell you some great ephinay or sage advice that lead me to embrace my flaws. Honestly, one day I think I got tired of not wearing what I wanted to. So I stopped. This doesn’t mean that there aren’t days when I don’t get self conscious about showing off something I might have to explain. But. We all have flaws, and I try to remember what we can view as flawed in ourselves might be what someone else likes.
Most of all, our flaws shouldn’t stop us from wearing things we love. Flawed. Let’s show it off
I can’t tell you how much I recommend a low back dress, and these fringed boots make everything a little more fun. Similar pieces are linked below!
I’m really curious: what do you think are your flaws and do you “dress around” them?
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