She walks into Starbucks, dressed to the nines, and though your hair looks Drybar perfect today, you automatically feel like a 7th grader with broccoli in her braces. She doesn’t seem to notice anyone else in her haze of perfectness. Feel like that will never be you? Me either.
Let’s chat about dealing with Insecurities
Imagine wearing whatever you like, whenever you like, and feeling amazing in it. How do we get there?
To be honest, I’m not sure. My body is not something I’m always comfortable in. I work out 6 days a week, eat clean, and there are times when I have abs and times when I don’t. I fantasize about not worrying what I look like, just throwing things on, and feeling secure all the time. My insecurities won’t let me.
I mean, they do sometimes, but let’s be honest sometimes they don’t. I love this unique way of tying a white button down. But there are shots I’m not confident to show you (this was not an abs day, and as a human when I bend, my stomach moves, sometimes over my clothes). I spent days thinking maybe I should reshoot, or look into those retouching services. But, as much as I want to portray a perfect, super secure, super Instagram worthy life and outfit to you–this is who I am.
So, how do I deal with my insecurities? Probably not well. Let’s be frank with each other, dealing with insecurities is hard. One day it’s super easy. One day it’s super hard. I wish that I had a magic wand and could tell us secrets, but I can’t.
If I could, I would easily make our insecurities go away. We would see ourselves for the beautiful and amazing creatures that we are. Wine would make us lose weight, for real. Calories wouldn’t matter. Gucci shoes would be a lot cheaper than they are (ok, that’s not an insecurity, but if we’re dreaming, let’s shoot for the fences).
I’m still waiting on magic wands and affordable Gucci shoes, so I will share what I do know. We are beautiful. We are worthy. And if you love an outfit, it doesn’t matter than your stomach moves with your body. Also, if you fake that you can deal well with your insecurities, you can be that woman in Starbucks (at least for a minute, we can do anything for a minute).
The best way I know how to deal with insecurities? Amazing fashion. So, let’s chat about that!
I saw this way to tie a white button down on Instagram and had to try it-using the top button, button down as far as you like, then pull the sides back, tie, and twist up. I love it with a pencil skirt–and I love a classic pencil skirt in a great bold color. I like to think that these wedges balance the fact that it’s fall and it’s 90 degrees outside, they may not.
Even when I looked at these pics that sparked my insecurities, I loved wearing this outfit. I felt good in this outfit. Isn’t that what matters.
Side note: Maybe choosing to feel good is the best way to deal with our insecurities. What do you think?
Shop my picks below:
XO RA
