Be Ambitious

Investment Piece: Be Ambitious
Investment Piece: Be Ambitious
Investment Piece: Be Ambitious
Investment Piece: Be Ambitious
Investment Piece: Be Ambitious

There are many, many things a woman is supposed to be–and even more many things a woman is not supposed to be.
A woman should be:
Kind
Beautiful
Seen and not heard
Able to lead but not power hungry
In fact, not hungry in any way
Demure
Never ambitious
In words, perfect. But the perfect might never be defined.

This is a hard time for so many people, and women in particular. I’ve read countless articles about how the pandemic has been more difficult and added more workload to every woman’s plate. I know I’ve been cooking, cleaning, and doing more dishes. Which I am glad to do! I really love taking care of the people I love.

However, I can’t help but also being ambitious. I don’t think you should shy away from ambition either.

Investment Piece: Be Ambitious
Investment Piece: Be Ambitious
Investment Piece: Be Ambitious

Ambition can mean many things- career goals, personal goals, any goals. Does it matter what you want to be good at? I don’t think so. But I know right now all of it, from the personal to the career to the charity to the global, can feel hard. Like nothing we do makes a difference. Like it doesn’t matter.

I have no idea what the answers are, but I know that anything we do in the name of love- of our career, of our families, of others, is never wasted. And I think that means, especially as woman, that we emabrace ambition- whatever that means to you- and go whole heartedly in whatever direction we’re called. There are challenging times. I can’t back away from that. I can’t pretend that everything is perfect right now. But I can tell you I’m determined to go after what I want, maybe more than ever.

It means being uncomfortable.
It means asking for what I need. And help sometimes.
It means being ok with what doesn’t get done.

Non-sequiturs: are you registered to vote (especially in the States?) What’s your voting plan?
I’m loving the Juxatipositon of a graphic sweatshirt and structured chinos- this specific sweatshirt can be found here. I’ve linked these pants and other options below!
Xo RA

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End of Summer

Investment Piece: End of Summer
Investment Piece: End of Summer
Investment Piece: End of Summer

Tomorrow is the official last day of summer. It seems like it should have more fanfare but-between Labor Day (the unofficial last day of summer), the start of school (even if it is online), and everything being crazy (pandemic)- it’s a little note in our days. Does the end of summer warrant a big deal? Did you do everything you wanted to this summer?

I’ve had thoughts. This from last year and this from last week. Endings and beginnings can be big deals and no deals all at the same time, so how do we dress for them?

Investment Piece: End of Summer
Investment Piece: End of Summer
Investment Piece: End of Summer

It’s days like today when I have to remind myself that tomorrow won’t magically be different. Like my 16th birthday, the end of summer and the first of fall might not feel different right away. They might feel the same. (Beloveds, it might still be hot) And while I keep hoping for one moment that’s big and changes things immediately, fall might be a slow change. (And there is nothing wrong with that, I just have to manage my expectations)

So. Even if tomorrow is the same, if today is an ending, what do we do with it?

Do we cram the last bits of summer in? (Yes, I may get in my toddler pool and relax this afternoon).
Do we move ahead? (I am hoping to put on a sweatshirt at some point this week?)
Do we transition?
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Right now? I’m transitioning. This is a vintage knit dress (we’ll chat transition knits soon! They can be your best friends!) from Rudi Gernreich (a designer you should know! We’ll chat him too, but if you’re impatient you can read all about him here

How are you doing the end of summer?

I’ve found you Rudi Gernreich dresses of your own- linked below!
Xo RA

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Vested

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Investment Piece: Vested
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Investment Piece: Vested
Investment Piece: Vested
Investment Piece: Vested

Work has changed. Yet, I’m still obessed with suits.

(See here, here, here, here, here, here, and here to start. Search suit in the tool box, the pages of suits that come up is a testimony to how I feel about the style!)

A vest suit is something I have always been fascinated by. Part vintage. Part ladylike. All chic.

Yes, you can use the pieces seperately. I have all sorts of plans for this skirt, and this vest goes with everything from shorts to jeans to dress pants.
But, together?
Chic. It feels both powerful and work like. And yet, ready to go see art and wine and dine. All at the same time.
Yes, this would look great under a blazer. (And add to the work look) But, I love the vest alone. It’s both incredibly feminine and a tad sexy, and yet professional. Add a scarf. Add statement jewelry. Leave it alone. All work. All make me feel like I’m “doing something”.

You might not be going into an office right now (you might also be over zoom meetings). You might not need to wear a suit. This is the “suit” option that lets you lean into all the things that can make you feel professional and all the things that make you feel casual and a little rebellious and a little ready for after hours. (And if nothing else, you can throw on the vest for zoom and everyone will think you’re suited up and you can really be in pj pants!)

Can we have it all? Maybe with a vest we can.

(Yes, I’m actively ignoring the vest craze in the 90s- though if you want to wear a vest over your tshirt with jeans it can also be chic! I just love the suit version so much more!)

I’ve linked some options for you below (including a 1970s vest pant suit that is so chic!)

Do you love the vest suit like I do?
Xo RA

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#TrendtoTry Combat Boots

If the grunge trend is back, I have mixed feelings. There are elements of grunge that I love- soft flannels, ripped jeans, slip dresses. And very randomly-combat boots.

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Combat boots seem like something I wouldn’t like, but in real life- I love them. These were an impluse purchase many, many years ago, but they’ve become one of my favorite pair of fall boots. And now that combat boots are in style again,I can’t help but recommend them to you!

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The thing about combat boots is that they aren’t precious, so you don’t style them as such. Throw them on with anything- dresses or jeans. Don’t think about it. Throw them on and go. They are chic and easy and had a hint of toughness that I just love.

It’s best not to over think the combat boot. They probably do go with that–slip dresses, though I love them with variations of a shirt dress like this one. Any sort of jeans. With any sort of top. As a bonus- add a blazer or a trench coat to the outfit, it’s so chic.

(I also would wear these with a wrap coat as a dress!)

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But, one of my favorite ways to wear these boots is with my leggings. They are the perfect boots to wear to the gym, to errands, to make leggings and a t-shirt feel like a statement. Since I don’t have to worry about them getting wet, or getting scuffed, I feel like I can just throw them on and let them be. Combat boots can be both the statement of my outfit and casual shoes.

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There is nothing your combat boots won’t go with, and I’ve found you some new ones that are so chic! I love the shorter ones, even though mine are tall. Any way you chose to wear them-tough, sweet, with dresses or leggings- combat boots may be the boots of fall. Are you trying this trend?

Xo RA

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What Might Have Been

Investment Piece: What Might Have Been
Investment Piece: What Might Have Been
Investment Piece: What Might Have Been

I didn’t get in a pool all summer (if we’re not counting my little toddler pool). I didn’t go to the beach. There are outfits I didn’t wear, people I didn’t get to hug.

It’s been that kind of summer for all of us. There are things that we didn’t get to do (or wear) and the allure and romanticism of “what might have been” can be hard to let go of.
The outfit that you didn’t get to wear? It was perfect.
That event you didn’t get to go to? The time of your life.
What might have been is always addicting. It’s always going to be perfect and I can find myself longing for it, even when what might have been is long passed.
What do we do with all those things we didn’t do and didn’t wear?
How do we move forward?

Investment Piece: What Might Have Been
Investment Piece: What Might Have Been
Investment Piece: What Might Have Been

Of course, you can wear whatever you like whenever you like (is there such a thing as time any more?). Re-schedule events. Create events and outfits that are so much better than what you had planned.
But.
When you’re in the middle of what might have been, those solutions can seem a little far away.
I don’t have answers for all the things that might have been (the only things worse are the things that got away), but how I’m dealing with what might have been is planning ahead. There are things I missed doing (and wearing this summer), I can’t do anything about that (other than wear what makes me happy, which I’m on!) So how I’m handling fall is planning. It looks different. There are things are I can’t do. But-the boots I want to wear, I’m wearing (even just on the couch). The pumpkin carving? I’m doing across the street with my neighbors. The friends I miss? I’m scheduling Facetimes and sending letters and texts.

Perfect?
Maybe not.
But I’m doing what I can, and avoiding the regret of what might have been.

Investment Piece: What Might Have Been
Style Notes: this dress is homemade vintage from Selvedge Fine Vintage. Isn’t amazing how many people were able to make such gorgeous homemade dresses? The color is divine, and the fit is perfect! Shoes? Gabriela Hearst-I couldn’t resist the split sole (and you can find these second hand at affordable prices! I’ve linked some for you!)

What is the one thing that you missed that you can’t help but think about? What are you doing about it?

Xo RA

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Add some Glam

Investment Piece: Add some Glam
Investment Piece: Add some Glam
Investment Piece: add some glam
Investment Piece: add some glam

Are you stuck in a rut lately? Between working from home and it being so hot, getting dressed hasn’t felt super exciting lately. I’m interested in being comfy and staying cool, nothing else has seemed really important.

And there are times that are like that. Sometimes, it can feel like life can narrow- in both good ways and bad-and when that happens, I try both just to focus on what’s happening and keep perspective. Life can be cyclic, ups and downs, and hopefully everything evens out in the end. Right? We all know I love a good outfit (and story), but there are times when getting dressed isn’t a priority. And forcing things never works. I’m learning, slowly, that the times when you can only do so much how you handle it is to do what you can, and when you can do more you add it on!

Maybe this is the time to focus on comfort and easy dressing. Nothing wrong with that at all! I’ve been living in this easy jumpsuit. It’s so comfy (and forgiving), and yet looks polished. From errands to Netflix binges and zoom calls, it’s been a go-to.

But.

If it’s a time to venture out of the comfy rut, my secret is to add a little glam. Nothing big. Nothing forced. Just small details, letting me stay comfy. Yet feel special.

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One of the easiest ways to add some glam right now? Articulated brooches. They go right over your shoulder, and add some glam to anything. T-shirts. Jumpsuits. Dresses. Your pjs. It’s special enough to brighten any routine, but takes zero effort.

That’s all the glam I can extend this week, and I’m finding it’s enough. Next week, who knows? Maybe I’ll go all out! This week, though,I’ll still to comfy and little details.

(Side note: this jumpsuit is a very heavy linen, perfect for transitioning into fall. For extra glam and transitioning, I recommend velvet shoes!)

Xo RA

I’ve found you some articulated pins (most under $30!) and have linked this jumpsuit and some shoes for you!

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Fall Trends

It’s the time of year to be thinking about fall trends. This year is different, but there are still trends to be considered. Does this mean you have to?
Not at all. See here

But should you? Maybe? Maybe being at home gives you the freedom to really play with the trends. See what you like. See what fits into your closet.

According to sources these are the top trends of the fall:

here

here

And

here

We’ll be talking about these trends in the coming weeks. I’m excited to play. I’m excited to hear what you love.

Let’s chat about it!
Xox
RA

Running Late

Investment Piece: Running Late
Investment Piece: running late

Is anyone else having a weird relationship with time right now? I’m at home more than ever, I have both everything and nothing to do, all the time. In the before, I answered emails and messages promptly, even when it was lax, I kept a schedule.

Now?

It varies day to day. Sometimes I’m on top of it, maintain at least a semblance of routine, and I can get things done. Most importantly, I can be on time. However, sometimes I forget to answer messages for days at a time, get lost doing nothing, and run late.

Like very late. (Which is hard when there is no set schedule)

I’ve tried a lot to get me “in line” and “on time” and “on routine”, but for the most part, I’m trying to be graceful and kind to myself right now. There’s a lot and one late email won’t topple the world. (Right? Tell me I’m right. Also, if you have tips how to do any of this while in quarantine, I’m all ears)

Which brings me to wearing white. And white pants. Quintessential summer. Chic and fresh. And if you’re one of those people that are adamant that this is a style that we put away after Labor Day, an outfit staple whose time limit is drawing near (I wrote about wearing white after Labor Day here)

I haven’t worn these jeans all summer. So, do I have a week to make up for lost time? I’m running late.

Investment Piece: Running Late
Investment Piece: running late
Investment Piece: running late

Wearing all white is both hopeful and daring. And tempts fate. To me, it screams summer. But in a summer that has seen little need for jeans, these have sat untouched. At one point, I had all sorts of outfits planned, but I never put them on. I was running late. But now that time is running out(?), do I have to put them away?

(Sizing note: these exact jeans are linked below for you. I sized up. Which I normally do with white pants-just in case- there is little stretch in these, though they do loosen up as you wear them!)

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If I can find the grace for myself to muddle through days when it feels like I’m off schedule, and manage to get things done; could we find the grace to continue wearing white in a week? Should jeans this good pay the price for me running late?
While I do plan on wearing them (a lot?) this week, I’m now open to the idea of not acknowledging that Labor Day “deadline”. If I’m running late, why can’t my fashion?

(At least, that’s my current theory)

Jeans and tops linked below
Xo RA

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Lounge Luxe

Investment Piece: Lounge Luxe
Investment Piece: lounge luxe
Investment Piece: Lounge Luxe
Investment Piece: lounge luxe
Investment Piece: Lounge Luxe

Like me, you may be in a bit of a quandary lately. Wanting to “get dressed”. Knowing that you’re just at home and not needing to be in anything other than your pjs.

Working from home is both a blessing and a curse.

There are all sorts of suggestions on how to deal with this weird time we’re in and dressing for. You may just wear your pjs. Or workout clothes. Get dressed. Go all out with a fancy top and be comfy on bottom.
While there’s no right or wrong way to dress right now, what I’m finding works best for me (on a day to day basis) is lounge. Luxe.

This is a vintage terry dress (gown? Swimsuit cover up?). It’s a statement. And like wearing your robe all day. (Yes, even at home I sometimes wear heels but it’s also great with flat sandals or barefeet). Like many things, it’s a choose your own adventure: it can be a full on outfit, or it can be something to lounge in. Perfect for a summer soriee (socially distanced) or perfect laying on the bed after a shower (I can not be the only one who does that for hours).

Most importantly, it makes me feel “dressed” when I need to be. Because lately there are days when I do need my outfits to make me feel good. To let me know that we’re all strong and capable and all the things. And sometimes I need those feelings on days when it’s hard to get dressed. The solution? Lounge luxe. Both worlds, what you need it to be, and fancy feeling.

This dress is vintage, and my only terry cloth dress–I highly recommend them for comfort and style and have linked some for you below. What are you wearing daily? Is it giving you what you need? I want to hear all the stories about it!

Xo RA

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New Favorite

Investment Piece: new favorite

This is basically a one woman show, me. I hire photographers, showcase other businesses, work with people, but this enterprise? It’s me. The US, and the world has been (trying) to deal with its history of racism (yes, there is work to do). Many companies and stores pledged to hire and stock more Black-owned (especially Black Women)companies. I have no employees and I don’t stock– but I’ve made it a point to seek out designers and companies that are Black Owned. Here’s the thing- they should have been on our radar to begin with. It should not take BLM to make us seek out amazing stores. But. I’m grateful that I’ve found these companies. The products are amazing and should be a part of your closet.

This dress is from Mie, and it’s my fave fave. Pockets. Sexy. But functional. Good for everything from a backyard staycation (the pandemic isn’t over!) but will look stunning when you’re out and about. Everything from this store is stunning. The service was stellar. I highly recommend everything about them!

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Have I mentioned the pockets? This dress is linen but thick, so will be great for fall transitions, or even layered with t-shirts. It’s sexy, but not overly so. I’ve worn it with sneakers to go to the store. With sandals for backyard drinks. Barefoot. It’s become my go-to dress. It’s comfy but makes me feel special.

I love finding new brands, I love clothes that make me feel special yet seamlessly fit into my closet, and I love sharing them with you. I’m a bit embarrassed that it took a movement for me to really seek out new things, but I’m ever so grateful for this discovery.

Shop all the wonderful things from Mie here. And I’ve linked these shoes and similar items below!
Xo RA

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