(Mini) Skirting It

Investment Piece: (MIni) Skirting It
Investment Piece: Mini Skirting it
Investment Piece: Mini Skirting It

Know what I hate? The idea that something is too “young” (or too “old”) for a certain age group. Yes- there’s dressing appropriately, but if you feel great in something, why shouldn’t you wear it? Yet. While I would tell you that you can wear all the things that make you happy, I sometimes also worry that my choices are too “young”. Or that I shouldn’t wear something because of my age.

For example, mini skirts. Part of my issue is that I worry my height is too much (my solution to that is to make sure that any mini skirt I buy isn’t too loose, for example this number I sized up so it wouldn’t be short and tight!), but I also worry that I’m too old for mini skirts.

And loves, I would like to think that I’m not too old for anything. Following your own advise it tough, but, I decided to mini skirt the issue and wear what makes me happy. And this skirt, these colors- how could you not be happy in it?

Investment Piece: Mini Skirting It
Investment Piece: Mini Skirting It

Maybe skirting the issue (mini or otherwise) comes down to a little bit of bravery. Or confidence. It may seem silly, but wearing a mini skirt seemed like a big deal to me. However, wearing it was so fun. I didn’t feel old, I felt empowered. Mainly by the fact that I was wearing something that brought me joy!

Some styling notes:
– as mentioned above, I did size up so that the skirt wasn’t too tight. Although this skirt is so stretchy! It’s incredibly comfy (and there’s room enough for shorts underneath if that makes you comfortable!)

-I paired it with a blouse to balance the look. Although from bikini tops to tank tops to sweatshirts, this skirt would go with so many things

-I wore flats as again I was worried about my height. But. I might get even more daring and wear it with wedges or heels!

Investment Piece: Mini SKirting It

What time are you avoiding wearing because of something you “should” wear? How would it feel to wear it instead? I would love to hear about it!

I’ve linked this skirt a few others like it below so you can mini skirt it with me!
Xo RA

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Wine and Packing

Investment Piece: Wine and Packing

Last week, I went on a short trip with my family. It was lovely to get away for a bit!

**This was my first time traveling during the pandemic, and in all honesty, I wasn’t sure how I would handle my pandemic-anxiety. While there were times when I worried about crowd size and mask wearing, over all I was at ease and comfortable the whole time. It can be done!

It also didn’t hurt that we had a great time!

We drank some wine:
Investment Piece: Wine and Packing
Went to the National Museum of the Pacific War (a lot of info but really worth your time):
Investment Piece: Wine and Packing

There was even a castle:
Investment Piece: Wine and Packing

Truly a wonderful time and I’m so grateful to have been able to spend time with my family.

However, a trip always means packing. And I am an overpacker. Even going to the gym I take extra shoes and options. I can’t help it. But this time, I was determined to pack thoughtfully and intentionally.

How did my packing hold up? Ok-ish. There were times on the trip that I felt like I brought the completely wrong shoes.

Investment Piece: Wine and Packing

Instead of the pink shirt I had planned to wear with this skirt, I wore this white tank top instead. The elastic of the top and skirt just laid weird together. But I ended up loving this top- even with my pink pants!

Investment Piece: Wine and Packing

I ended up throwing in a dress, which was the right call! I wore it to wineries and our one “nice dinner” the second day we were gone.

Investment Piece: Wine and Packing

The only things I didn’t wear? My extra shirts. Travel is so amazing, but I can rethink everything I wore- for me it can really be difficult when I have limited options. However. I LOVED what I took, and I loved the outfits I came up with.

May every bag you pack be as gentle with you!
Xo RA

Here We Go Again: Sets

Investment Piece: Here we Go Again
Investment Piece: here we go again
Investment Piece: here we go again

If our patterns help tell our stories, what does it reveal about me that I keep going back to sets? There was one here on Friday- I can’t stay away. Part of it is that I love that you can wear each part of a set seperately. Part of it is that I love the look of matching. And part of it is simply that I love the ease of not having to worry about what to put on in the morning. Or afternoon.

Either which way, I’m wearing another set- here we go again.

Investment Piece: here we go again

When I first saw this set it made me think of the beach. Just thick enough, just soft enough to be everything I want to slip into after a day at the shore. The same is true for the pool. While I haven’t made it to the water yet, I have worn it on a car trip and for summer errands, and I can highly recommend it for both! You can dress it down with flip flops, dress it up with wedges, or wear it to lounge on the couch. The perfect summer set!

Investment Piece: here we go again
Investment Piece: here we go again

Perhaps my most fave thing about sets? They make me feel at ease. Like somehow they get me together. If you know me well, when you say “here we go again” about me, it usually means I’m getting passionate about something. Or in my feelings. I really want to be cool and mysterious, I’m usually not. But. Sets make me feel like I can be that cool, and together, and at ease.

Maybe what this set pattern lets you know about me is that I sometimes dress how I want to be, the most together or me. That’s a “here we go again” I’m happy to show off.

I’ve linked the exact short set (I’m in a size small here) and similar shoes below! If you’re a set lover like me I know you’ll love it- and if you get it I want to see how you style it!
Xo RA

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Investment Piece: here we go again

Sunday Chronicles: Summer Bucket List

Investment Piece: Summer Bucketlist

This past week my family and I took a short vacation- mainly visiting wineries and museums. It was fun, and hopeful, and made me think that maybe this summer deserves a bucket list. Last year, my summer bucket list was simply to survive. This year? While I’m not sure I’m ready for ALL the things, I am looking forward to doing some of the things.*

*while this recent little trip seemed to ease some of my reopening anxiety, I still have a little bit. Did you miss it? I got honest about my fears here.

Bucket lists, to me, are equally about hopes and plans. Summer is the season that seems to both move the slowest and the fastest for me, and I’m trying to put doable things on my list while remaining flexible (as things both become more open and as my anxiety *hopefully* lessens). Small things, big things, and everything in between: here’s what’s on my summer bucket list so far!

A Pool
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Remember last summer when I got a baby pool and it was my favorite thing? It still is, but this year I want to go to a real pool. And swim. And get my hair wet. Lay out. Nap in the sun. Come home smelling like sunscreen and being a little bit sun tired. I don’t know if I will be able to get to a beach (the dream) but I want a lot of pool days.

Reading and Movies
I used to be an avid reader. As in I was averaging at least 2 books a week. I would lose myself in books and stories. Same thing for movies. One of my favorite things used to be “sneaking” off to a matinee and letting the magical world welcome me in. If you follow me on IG you may have seen me say on my stories this week that I’m doing a little detox- mainly as that for my Hot Vaxxed Girl Summer I want to become/recreate/rediscover my best and most fashionable self. And part of that for me is getting back to reading and movies.

Plans
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When I sat down to make this bucket list, this is about where I got stuck. In the “before” I used to make plans- for the blog, travel, friends, family. And I would follow through! From lunches to meetings to shoots to holidays. But. After 2020, I’m having a hard time distinguishing between plans (meet my friend’s babies! Go shopping! Meet for lunch! Shoot certain outfits!) and more dreams (take tap dance again! Plan vacations!). There’s no reason why I can’t (and shouldn’t) do both, as well as follow through with them. Yet, it feels a bit overwhelming. I may also still be a little superstitious and I don’t want to plan TOO far ahead. My solution? At least every other week I want to have a plan (meet a friend for lunch, get that dr’s appt booked, take a class, etc). I’m not forcing myself to go big, and letting my plans be a little more flexible than I usually would. Little things, but hopefully leading to big things.

What about you? What’s on your summer bucket list? Are you letting yourself get right back into the swing of things or are you easing in? Tell me all about it!

Wishing us all a week of crossing off bucket lists and amazing shoes! XO RA

Perfectly Set

Investment Piece: Perfectly Set
Investment Piece: Perfectly Set
Investment Piece: Perfectly Set
Investment Piece: Perfectly Set
Investment Piece: Perfectly Set

When I was little I couldn’t stand it if things didn’t match perfectly. My outfit, my shoes, my hair bow. They all had to go together. I didn’t believe in blending or “things going together”. I wouldn’t dream of mixing patterns like I do now (see here and here). And while I’ve grown a lot, there are still things I want to match exactly. Like sets.

You may have seen sets like this one (a crop top with a skirt) in a ton of spring editorials, stores, and IG pictures. I wanted one. And I found one that I loved! The color was a bit of a stretch for me (I don’t usually yellow) but it felt soft and spring! The cut would let me show off, and yet hide what I wanted to! I felt like I could dress it up, or down, and that for all my spring soirĂ©es it would be perfect.

I got the top. Turns out productions on the skirt was stopped due to the pandemic.

Investment Piece: Perfectly Set

Knowing that I can get tunnel vision when it comes to my outfits, and now knowing that I like things to match perfectly, you can imagine the pickle I found myself in. (Yes, I know this is such a minor problem, but have you been noticing that little problems are seeming really big lately? Me too) The thing is, I wanted this look more than I was worried about matching perfectly, so I took a risk. I’m a believer in vintage, and went to some of my vintage go-to’s to see if I could find a skirt that would match this top. This yellow number was one of the first I found. I risked it. Got it. And it matches, perfectly.

In fact, it’s a perfectly set match. Like I had planned it.

I’m sure that there are lessons here. Maybe to let go. To trust blending. That things don’t have to be perfect. I’m open to all of those. Maybe the lesson is just to go after what you want? Maybe the lesson is all of that.

Whatever you get out of it, I hope you find a perfect set in your future.
(I’ve even linked you some below!)

Me, I’m over here letting things not be perfect (or trying to) and matching things as best I can!
Xo RA

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Investment Piece: Perfectly Set

Now and Then: Denim Jacket

Investment Piece: Denim Jacket

A closet staple no matter the season? A denim jacket. I have at least 6. From more “formal” (if formal denim jackets are a thing) to personalized to short sleeved:

Investment Piece: Denim Jacket
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Various sleeves, various shades, various types. I wear them with everything from dresses to my workout leggings. My denim jackets are the pieces I reach for time and time again. Recently I got an ad for a “new” denim jacket- oversized, short sleeved, just a tad destroyed. And all I could think of was all the different ways that I could wear it. The second thing I thought of? Whether or not I could find a similar jacket vintage.

One of the things I love about trends, fads, fashion in general is that things come back around. Styles that were popular when I was young are all of a sudden on trend again. (Yes, this is an excuse to hang on to all the things that you truly love) So, when there’s a basic (or a trend) I always debate to buy new or vintage. There are pros and cons to both- and in this case, fantastic denim jackets (with all the sleeves and embroideries and styles) you can find both new and vintage. Both now and then.

The only question is: what you find and what you want! Below I’ve rounded up some of my current favorite denim jackets. Some are new. Some are vintage. All are chic and all are on trend. It’s just what you like- now or then!

I would love to know: how do you wear your denim jackets? Do you prefer to shop new or vintage?
Xo RA

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Uniform

Investment Piece: Uniform
Investment Piece: Uniform
Investment Piece: Uniform

My grandma (we called her Mimi) used to have a uniform. Not the school kind, and nothing that matched anyone else- but outfits that she would put on day after day. (The uniform was for running errands and being in the house, when she had events or places to be she would dress accordingly!) As a kid, I always kind of thought that the uniform was silly. I so enjoyed wearing new outfits day after day. But as an adult? I appreciate outfits that I can throw on for anything- the grocery store, post office, other errands, after a shower, to sit on the couch, and as a basic that lets me not think but look good.

My current uniform? A linen dress. Simple. Easy. But chic. And ready for anything. Errands? With sandals or sneakers. Dinner? A party? Heels. On the couch? Barefoot. I don’t have to over think this dress. And so I reach for it time and time again. Please don’t ask me how many days I’ve worn it in a row– but the answer is many!

Investment Piece: Uniform

The older I get, the more I see my mom and my Mimi in me. I can’t tell you how shocking that sometimes is to me. It’s by no means bad- I love the women who came before me. However, I was very much a young woman who thought that I knew everything and was going to be nothing like my elders. So, when it turns out that they had the right ideas all along? It’s both surprising, comforting, and a way to keep them with me.

Uniform dressing is truly something that has saved me over and over. When I’ve been tired or upset or in a rush or any of the multitude of things that I can be- having something to put on that feels like good has been priceless. I’m grateful that my Mimi showed that to me. I’m glad I’ve found this dress that I’ve already worn too many times to count- and that still feels fresh and exciting each time I wear it.

What are you wearing this Monday? Is it a uniform? And are you excited by it?

I’ve linked this exact dress and shoes below if you want to be uniform buddies!
Xo RA

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Investment Piece: Uniform

Sunday Chronicles: Words

Investment Piece: Words

Some various contradictions? I don’t think of myself as a writer. A storyteller? Yes. But if asked I’ll tell you that I use fashion to tell my stories. Yet. I write about them. Blog posts, picture captions, the whys, the how’s of all my outfits- I do write. And. Admittedly, I have some bad writing habits. I use the word “amazing” way too often. The thing is many times, many outfits, many amazings are different. I can tell you something is amazing and mean that it fits perfectly or that it makes me feel strong or that it’s a standout. Yes, I need a thesaurus. Or to be more exact.

Our words mean things, and the way we use them means things, and I’ve been thinking about that recently. Yes, Mercury is Retrograde (if you’re into that sort of thing) which is a great time to reasses and review our communication.

What got me thinking about words: how we use them and what we mean, was a friend’s Facebook post. He was posting about his daughter’s graduation and college acceptance. Yes, he was bragging, and yes he should as his daughter is a delight. But. He called her quirky. I truly admire his daughter, she has a strong sense of self as a teenager and doesn’t concern herself with what people “think” she should be doing. I know what her dad meant by quirky was all of that- that she’s self assured and strong in herself and not worried about being a Teen-Movie-Perfect teen. Me? I take quirky to mean all the weird and bad things- if you called me quirky I would assume that you thought I was so strange and almost unlike-able but wanted to be nice about it. Even though words have meanings, we all take different words to mean different things.

So. When we (me) can overuse the same word or when we all have different meanings for the same word, how do we use our words to communicate with each other? I’m still working that out. There are times when I feel as if words are my best friends and writing comes easy; I feel confident that I communicated my words well. Then there are times when I call everything amazing and I’m crossing my fingers that my words are taken in the best way.

In a time when it can be advisable to be intentional with our words, I’m thinking about my words. What I mean and how to be more exact with them. I’m also thinking about other people’s words- and thinking about asking for clarification when I don’t get other’s words- and giving them the benefit of the doubt that they always mean the best things, as I do. I’m pledging to be better with my words, to watch them and to get out my thesaurus when I need it.

How do you use your words?

Wishing us all a week of good communication and amazing shoes! Xo RA

Silk and Shorts

Investment Piece: Silk and Shorts
Investment Piece: Silk and Shorts
Investment Piece: Silk and Shorts

Are you a shorts person? Like a real shorts person? I feel like at this time of the year (summer), shorts are everywhere. And it’s hot- they feel good. But sometimes I can hear my grandmother’s voice in head saying that women of a certain age shouldn’t show their knees.

Which is laughable. But when things are in your head?

It’s not that I don’t wear shorts- because I do. And I love them. From cutoffs to “nicer” pairs (like these crepe Bermuda ones).
I wear heels with shorts. I wear shorts formally. I’ll tell you that I don’t know about wearing shorts, but then I wear them in all the ways. I over-think wearing shorts, and throw on any shirt/sweater/swimsuit with shorts. It’s both a contridiction and a stable choice.
During short season there is one combo I love- pairing shorts with a silk (or silky) shirts. It’s a bit of elevation, sophistication, and makes me feel both classic and edgy, all at the same time. Pair with heels and a chic clutch? Perfect for any sort of summer soiree.

Investment Piece: Silk and Shorts
Investment Piece: Silk and Shorts
Investment Piece: SIlk and Shorts

The trick with silk and shorts? Not over heating (sweat and silk are not a chic combo!). Not being afraid of color, mixing silk with silk (not pictures here), or even a patterned silk. This combo was a bit more stated (the shoes and the clutch- both bought vintage- do the talking) but it felt right at home at the outdoor cocktail party on this summer evening.

Though to be fair, an outfit like this would be just as at home on an early fall evening. Or day. Let’s not limit ourselves.

What I love about the silk and short combo is that while it works, it’s still a bit surprising! We (I) think of silk as a more dressy option, and shorts as more of a casual one. And yet- they go together.
How do you wear your silk during the hotter months? And what do you wear with shorts? I would love to know-especially if you wear silk and shorts together!
Xo RA

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Investment Piece: SIlk and Shorts

#swimseason

Investment Piece: SwimSeason

Every year I write about swim suits, swim season, and all the ways to swim. Maybe it’s because I’m a mermaid looking for her ocean (a joke I make to my family at least once a week), that I use swim suits as all sorts of fashion basics (see here And here, and that’s just for starters!), or maybe just because swim suits are such a big part of summer that I’m a firm believer that you should have a swim collection that makes you feel fantastic. Swim trends come and go- from one-pieces to bikinis. For me, the goal is never to worry about trends but to pick swim suits that I love and that go with multiple locations and outfits!

Investment Piece: Swim Season

A new swim I’m trying this summer? A swim dress. It’s not that I’m stopping with the bikinis or putting away all my one pieces- it’s that I’m open to new swim and this year it’s the swim dress. I’ll be honest, I always thought of any sort of swim dress as something for someone much,much, much older than I am. But. Maybe. I was wrong.

I stumbled upon this swim dress in target. It was chic. Versatile. Able to be worn to a party or in the water. And when I couldn’t stop thinking about it- especially when I realized that a swim dress was perfect for river floating (a big thing where my mom lives), and would let me be swim chic without a cover up at certain outside summer events- I was sold. Turns out swim dresses can be an incredible addition to your swim rotation!

Investment Piece: Swim Season

From the water to events, from one pieces to bikinis and now swim dresses- I’m such a fan of swim wear. You can find me in various suits all season long (alone or with pants/skirts/shorts/etc). I hope that you can find suits that you love, that you feel confident in, that make your outfits pop. I’m linking this swim dress and all sorts of swim suits I’m loving this season below. You’ll be seeing me in so many of them- in so many ways!

Xo RA

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Investment Piece: Swim Season