Am I Too Old?

a blonde woman in a black crop top and black pants in front of stone

When I first came up with the above outfit, my main concern was that it would be flattering. We all have body worries-and my concerns about the outfit were centered on those. I didn’t know it at the time, but those were the simpler days.

As I get older, not only do I worry about things being flattering, I worry about being too old for them. And I hate that I think that, I hate that I ask myself if I’m too old for things. I want to be able to tell you that no matter what you wear- from crop tops to cutouts to mini skirts to sleeveless and strapless tops- I want to tell you that as long as you feel confident in it, and love it, that there are no age limits (or any body limits!).

A part of me believes that.

And a large part of me worries about trying too hard. About dressing so young I make myself look older. About being one of those women who cling to youth with such a grip that they look foolish. It’s not that I think this about other women, or outfits I see from editorial shoots to Instagram. But it’s something I worry about for me.

Do you think that we get too old to wear certain things? What do you think that age is and what do you think those things are?

a close up of a woman in a black crop top

A dear friend had a great perspective on the “am I too old for this” question when I recently send her a picture of a different crop top. She pointed out that while I and someone younger than me might both be drawn to the top, that we would style it in different ways, and that as I am the age that I am, my styling would be age appropriate. And she’s right. Even my own personal style has changed from my 20s to now. Even when I love crop tops, etc, I do try to balance the outfit, and style it in ways that make me feel confident.

So. Why do I worry about being too old for things? And what does that really mean?

Even on Instagram (etc) I can show you pictures of stunning women, older than me, wearing all the things I worry about making me look old- and I love the outfits and think they look amazing. Is it really just a personal doubt that I have? And if so, how do I get over it?

I’m not 1000% sure. My plan is to continue to pick pieces and outfits that I love, and that I feel confident in, style them the way I like- and hope for the best. With any stage of life, I know that there will be things that I chose to stay away from, that my style will evolve with me, and that there will be things I don’t feel confident in (for whatever reason). And when it comes to me putting aways styles I used to wear, or chasing things I wouldn’t have in the past I hope that I’m choosing based on what I love- and not my fears (especially my fears about being old).

I’m also hoping that if I do wear things that make me look too old or that I’m trying to hard that one of my dear friends will (gently) tell me. Feel free to consider yourself a dear friend!

I would love to know if you occasionally have these “am I too old” fears- and if there are any ways your style is changing because of them?

XO RA

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RachelAdelicia

Actress, avid shopper, and a lover of fashion. Hoping to make the world a better place one pair of shoes at a time.

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