You’re Golden

a woman in a black turtleneck and hose, heels with a gold tiled skirt
a woman in a black turtleneck, hose and heels and a golden tile skirt
a woman in black turtleneck, hose and heels and a golden tile skirt
a woman in a black turtleneck, hose and a gold skirt

This has been one of my favorite outfits lately. I love that the skirt is slightly reminiscent of The Lady in Gold (a fave of mine, see here and if you love it like I do you must check out the shoe the painting inspired at Sarah Flint), but yet could also be just a simple skirt. And the outfit just felt good- you know one of those outfits that just feel like you on, and at the same time make you feel like your best self? This outfit was that. Yet. I had no idea what to write about it. Below is an attempt to tell you how much I love this skirt and why I think you should get yourself something similar (not to mention great basics), but I feel like it didn’t shine the way I felt like it could. Forgive that (and the bad puns)- but know that I think that if you get a chance to be golden you should take it!

a woman in a black turtleneck, hose, and a gold skirt

Is it the holiday season without some sort of gold? Well, yes, but it might not be as bright and merry. And as we head into the holiday season, gold is everywhere. From decorations to wishlists, gold is a standard this time of year- so why not wear it? Does that seem like a lot? I worried that telling us all to go drape ourselves in gold clothing would be akin to telling us to “dress like you’re the present”, which sounds a bit cringe (as the kids say). And yet, I can’t but help loving gold pieces (a la this skirt), that manage to be both neutral and a statement.

One of my favorite things about wearing gold is that it does all the heavy lifting. It’s a statement that lets you not think about it (a great help at this time of year). And a statement that lets your great basics shine- like here (and BTW I think that everyone should have a great black turtleneck and should invest in great black hose- these 2 pieces could be worn every day in a million different ways!). Also, wearing gold makes you shine just a bit, and at a time when things are both celebratory and a bit overwhelming, being golden is always the best choice.

a woman in a black turtleneck, hose, and a. gold skirt

This skirt is Dries Van Noten that I found on eBay, I fell in love with it the minute I saw it. I’ve found you similar- and also linked some basics that I love!
I think you’re just golden!
XO RA

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a woman in a black turtleneck, hose and a gold skirt

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Trends I’m Loving

a woman in a black leather dress in a bathroom mirror

Every season we chat about trends, and I share my picks and what trends I’m excited about (see my trend report for 2022 here). Yet, sometimes it takes getting into a season, trying things on, seeing trends on others, and seeing what your life is like to see what trends you really love for the season. This fall I have loved playing in pink and reacquainting myself with platforms. I’ve never met a suit I didn’t like, and I love the deep textures such as velvets that are in stores.

Yet, there a few trends that I’ve been seeing on IG that I just love and a few that I have been experimenting with that I just love. This list isn’t so much an update on trends as a refining of ones that I’m finding fit into my day to day life. I’m hoping that they provide some inspiration for you!

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a woman in black sheer tights, a black wrap dress and gold heels
Black Hose

While I’ve been getting into hose(tights, whatever you call them, see here), this seasons I’m finding myself reaching for black hose (sheer and opaque) more and more. They are perfect with minis, maxis, and midi skirts and dresses. They keep you warm as the temps drop. And look incredibly chic. Perhaps women of the past had it right when they wore hose (and we’re lucky that garter belts are now optional!)

OverSized Blazers
A take on the suit, an oversized blazer goes great over a mini (maybe I’m really loving minis too!), over jeans, and as a coat. Pair with sweater dresses, boots, and perhaps even a brooch! I’m partial to plaids, and the following are some of my faves!

Faux Leather
Yes, this was in the trend report I did at the beginning of fall. And While I knew that I love leather (and faux leather), seeing the dresses, tops, blazers, trenches, skirts, and pants that this season is offering, have me falling deeper in love. Faux leather is both edgy and classic, able to dress up and dress down. On trend cutouts, lace mixed with classics like blazers and leggings- and leather is completely seasonal! These are some of the leather pieces I’m currently loving:

1960s Vibes
Anne Hathaway in leopard print pants and a top, with leopard shoes

I don’t know if we call this a trend but I’m loving the 60s vibes (from big hair to cat eyes). Side Note- I’m also loving everything that Anne Hathaway has been wearing from appearances to photoshoots, from big hair to prints, I want to recreate all of her looks. Lately, I’ve been using hot rollers in my hair for volume, adding on the eyeliner, and have been attracted to shift sets, go-go boots, and more.

What trends have you been loving as you have been seeing them out and about this season? I would love to hear about them and how you’re styling them!
XO RA

Winter Scarf as a Top

a woman in a winter scarf as a top with black pantsa woman in scarf as atop and black pants leans against a wall
a woman in a winter scarf as a top and black pants
woman in a winter scarf and black pants

It feels as if turning a silk scarf into a summer top is a tradition, see here and here, though I’m a huge fan of scarves in general. Recently I saw an editorial shoot where a model wore a knit top (very similar to a scarf) that had a tail like a scarf. And I couldn’t help but think: if I wear silk scarves as a top during the summer, why can’t I use my wool scarves as a top during the colder months?

Turns out, I can!
back of a woman tying her scarf as a top with black pants
This a simple wool scarf that I folded, put as a top and tied. I talk more about it:

Again, this style hack is so easy to adapt (from the scarf you’re using to what you’re pairing it with) and yet so chic!This scarf would look great with a tonal piece (such as a camel skirt or hot pink pants, shoes, etc) or as a pop of color, such as tied over a black dress. And of course, any differently colored or printed scarf could be paired with an array of options- from jeans on up!

a woman in a winter scarf as a top with black pants
woman in a winter scarf as a top and black pants
a woman in a winter scarf as a top with black pants

While silk (or spring) scarves as tops, it always feels light and fun (and I do love that option!). Yet, this winter scarf as a top feels so much more editorial, a bit elevated, a bit more styled. And I can’t help but love it. How are you wearing your winter scarves? Would you wear them as a top? And with what?

Both this scarf and these go-to high waisted black pants are from seasons ago, but I’ve linked similar options for you below.
Happy Scarf-ing and shopping!
XO RA

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a woman in winter scarf as a top and black pants

Sunday Chronicles: Back to Nature

a woman with brown and blonde hair, closeup

I’m trusting that you know me well enough by now to know that when I say back to nature, I’m not talking about camping. To put it in a line from one of my favorite movies, Troop Beverly Hills, my idea of roughing it is 10 people having to share a bathroom. (Though I do love nature!) The nature I’m getting back to? My natural hair color. Which you may have noticed. It’s a process- there are days I hate it, days I’m giving up and wanting to highlight the front or tone it a bit darker. But most of all, going back to nature (for me) is a journey about getting back to myself and then deciding where to go (at lest when it comes to my hair.

This is not the first time I’ve written about my hair, see here, here, and even here when I first wrote about going darker after I went platinum. (And being platinum was fun for a while! Then I felt that it make me look older and then my hair started to break- part of the reason I’m avoiding dye right now!) There may not be a lot of new thoughts in this essay about my hair color; but being in the processing of actively choosing to let my hair be, to let it go through the growth- even when I worry about the color or want it to hurry up- is forcing me to think about I approach a lot of change in my life.

a woman with a bun and red lipstick taking a selfie in a car

Mostly that I want change to be quick and painless. And change often has to take its time. I want my hair to be healthy, before I make a move on color I want to see what I’m working with- which all means that I have to let it grow. My hair can look still blonde to brown to sometimes red, depending on the light. My natural highlights come and go (or it feels that way), and for having naturally dark blonde hair (or at least at one point!), I really thought that the growing out would be seamless and blend easily. Sometimes it feels like that’s happening. And then, there are are days when I can see what feels like a hard line of opposing color and my instinct is to fix it, and urges to chuck it all and go in for an instant change. Yet, I know that long term those changes might not be what I want or need and if I want my end goal of healthy, beautiful hair (Even if I end up dying it once I grow it out) that I have to let it go back to nature.

There’s a good chance that this hair journey could be applied to many seasons in our live. To get what we want we have to grow through some things, be a bit uncomfortable, and trust that we look ok in the meantime. Does the end justify the means? I’m crossing my fingers so! But I am trusting that- and of course will call a professional if it doesn’t quite work out the way I want. I’m having to breathe through this change a lot (and maybe kick myself for being in the thick of it in the most hectic part of the year- but is there any good time for change?), but it’s also teaching me to breathe through a lot- and trust that my end will be worth it.

Have you ever grown out your hair color? Tips? Any way that you can soothe yourself through change?

Wishing us all a week of seamless transitions and amazing shoes! XO RA

Escape

My week has been thwarted by a jammed toe. Yes- I am a klutz! Earlier this week I walked into a weight during Pilates class, jamming 2 toes on my left foot- and while I’m aok, they’ve affected everything. What shoes I can wear. My sleep. My schedule. Shoots, posts, appointments all had to be rescheduled. So while I’m on the mend, I’m still barefoot- meaning that today we’re looking back so next week we can move forward in amazing shoes! Xo RA

Investment Piece: Escape
Investment Piece: Escape
Investment Piece: Escape
Investment Piece: Escape
Investment Piece: Escape
Investment Piece: Escape

Escape.
She was bored. Even with the impending holidays, she needed a little excitement. A little adventure. She needed an escape. It was nothing personal, and nothing to fear; it’s just that sometimes we all need to be a little wild, a little different than we are, a little escape.
So, she got herself just that.
In the country, in the quiet, she was able to let loose. Never one to blend in, she let the escape be her canvas. From vistas to leopard sightings, what she really found in little moments of escape was herself again.
And don’t worry, she brought the clothes home with her. Just in case she needs a little city escape.

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Just because it’s coat season doesn’t mean that you have to resign yourself to bland winter fashion. Mix colors (how great are these gloves?). Wear print (well, leopard is a neutral, but there are so many prints out there to embrace). Your coat can be the star of your outfit, or a stunning topper. Realistically, you might not need an escape. BUT your outfit can be an escape from the ordinary, and I see nothing wrong with being ready just in case there’s a last minute get away.

This coat is Amberleaf and avaible on their site. I’ve linked pants and gloves for your escaping pleasure.
Xo RA
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Holiday Sanity

 a woman in a plaid shirt and black pants sitting by a green reindeer

Halloween is barely over – I haven’t even put up the decorations- and yet, it feels as if the HOLIDAYS are already breathing down our neck (and I know that the holidays usually means American and Christian traditions and if those aren’t yours I see you!). Though, let’s be honest, if you’ve been to the shops any time lately the holidays have been coming (aka my local stores swapped out Halloween deals for Christmas deals and decorations about two weeks ago). This is where I want to give you tips on how to navigate the holidays and keep your sanity in tact.

I want to tell you that I have every post, holiday outfit, holiday gift, and holiday trip planned. This is where I could tell you that I’m so ahead on gift guides, writing, plans, and all of the holiday things that I can just sit back and relax, enjoy November and have a stress free holiday season.

Yet. I would be lying to you.

This season I have big plans for gift guides (something that I struggle with so I’m excited to share my plans with you!), my outfits are still somewhat in flux- as are my plans- and while I’m aiming high and want to take each moment as it comes- I’m not ahead. There’s a chance you could even say I’m not over prepared. (Which I long to be each year at this time) So, with all of (waves hands at all we’re supposed to be doing and all that’s going on) how do we stay sane during the holiday season? How do we enjoy it as it’s happening and not worry about what we “should” be doing?

This is where I tell you that I’m not sure. However I can share what I’m doing to keep my sanity- holiday and otherwise.

a woman in a plaid shirt sits at a table with a red bookmark and a candle surrounded by greenery

Lists
From my calendar to my to-do list, I’m writing down my wants, my shoulds, my goals, and my deadlines. Attempting to break everything down into doable steps and timelines, trying to plan ahead, but not be overwhelming to myself. Does it help? For me? Yes. And sometimes, that does mean that I make double lists and then throw lists away, but constantly seeing it all helps.

Deadlines
While deadlines can sometimes lead to insanity, I actually find that they help me during the holiday season. I pick and keep to the days where I can no longer take on new projects, that I need to have posts done by, that I’m giving up (in the good way!) by. Sticking to my self-imposed deadlines may be a different issue, but knowing that I have the deadlines in place help me set boundaries which lead to sanity!

Giving Up
I want everything to be perfect- especially at this time of year. And while that’s a great goal, I know that it’s impossible -especially at this time of year. So. I give up. Not on everything- and it doesn’t mean that I don’t try- from outfits to posts to presents to plans. I try so hard during the holiday season. Yet, at some point, for sanity, you give up and let things be what they are and turn things off and just enjoy things. At least, that is the goal. Always. There are days when it’s easier than others, but giving up is one of the best things that I do for my holiday sanity.

I also plan ahead (and leave room for flexibility), I’ve moved to ecards and scaled down my gift list, I’ve focused on holiday things that really matter (family, friends, etc), and I’ve tried to shop in advance (with room for impulse purchases). What do you do to keep your sanity during the holiday season? How do you enjoy November without focusing on the December holidays?
I would love to hear your tips and tricks!

XO RA

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Fashion Halloween: Dorothy

a woman with pumpkin in pigtails, red ruby shoes, a blue striped dress, white undershirt
a woman in pumpkins in ruby red slippers in a blue striped dress with a white shirt
a woman in a blue and white striped dress with ruby red slippers and a cat and a gold round
a woman with pumpkins in ruby red slippers and blue socks and blue and white dress
a woman in pumpkins in a blue and white dress with a white undershirt, red ruby slippers, blue socks
a cat with a basket and ruby red slippers
close up of feet in ruby red slippers and blue socks a gold rug, a broom, and a white wall

Honestly, my plans for my big Fashion Halloween were delayed (get ready for next year!) and then I realized I could easily be Dorothy (from The Wizard of Oz). Fun fact? This was my favorite movie when I was 4-5 ( in fact, my grandparents were the first people to record it on their VCR for me and because of timing it took me years to know that a part of the film was in black and white- yes, I’m not that old but that old! If you know, you know- and I may lie about my age!) But. Dorothy has always been a fave. And ruby red slippers (or as I’ve always called them “date shoes” have always been a closet staple). So, when I realized I could easily do the Dorothy outfit- from hair (from pigtails to curls to braids) to dress (any light blue or gingham, or apron with a white undershirt- as long as it’s short sleeved, in this case a vintage Laura Ashley dress pinned over a white short sleeve shirt) and paired with a basket and a Toto(I tried to get my cat involved! This was our our best bet and she was interested but the pics were not our best! In short, animals are always a crap shoot but worth a try and as someone who loves to be near me this Cat and Toto is always a risk!) and of course- the Ruby Red Slippers. More a Fashion Story, but I was so obsessed with Wizard of Ozthat I thought that all red shoes were magic as a kid, and therefore that all women should own a pair of red shoes to wear on dates (aka date shoes), so I’ve kept more than one pair of red heels on hand -but who could resist a sparkly pair? And then to pair those with socks (slippers with blue socks and red sparkly shoes)?!? Magic.

It was my mom who suggest the broom- both a nod to Dorothy killing the Wicked Witch and Halloween in general. And yet- both that and the “yellow brick road” (aka gold towel) were so perfect.
Last minute. High fashion. Perfect Halloween (I was also Dorothy in high school with friends and this one might be the best!)

Tonight for Halloween, I’ll be in Skeleton Pjs (seen here handing out candy.You may have already worn a costume, or had one planned for tonight, but if you’re in need of ideas I’m hoping this easy look is something you can get together (or keep in your mind till next year!)
I hope that whatever you’re doing and whatever you’re wearing that it’s fashion and fun and a bit of frolic!

Happy Halloween! Hope it’s fashion!
XO RA

Ex Files: The Haunting

Investment Piece: Ex Files: The Haunting

We’re back!! That’s right it’s Ex Files, dating horror stories, my final attempt to live my life a la Carrie Bradshaw. (And let’s not pretend horror only lives in fiction. Some of my ex files: The Ghosting, Tinder on an Airplane, The One Who Wouldn’t Take No, and of course The One Who Asked for his Money Back. More can be found under “Ex Files” in the search bar). And because it’s almost Halloween, and nothing’s scarier than dating gone wrong, we’re chatting about Haunting!

We all have an ex that won’t die. There’s a reason they call it “I miss you season”; every once in a while, an ex who’s been gone makes their reappearance. Then trick can be deciding if you should give them a second chance or not! Here are just a few of my stories of exes that came back to Haunt me!

What’s up, love?
Mario went on 2 dates over a few weeks. It was clear from the beginning that neither of us were really looking for anything serious. He was lovely–but there was no click. So when things fizzled out, I thought nothing of it. However, like clockwork, every 2 months I get a text. Everything from “what’s up, love?” to “I miss you”. At first, I thought these were a little sweet. But, as this trend has continued, it’s become annoying. We didn’t really have anything. And no matter what he’s coming back for, it’s not here.

The One I Haven’t Met
There’s always that group text you can’t really get out of’ mine involves people from college. And in the group, I don’t know everyone–but everyone is friend’s of someone I do, so I thought nothing of Dave began occasionally texting me outside of the group, it was mainly about our college team, and it was fun. However, over time, it was clear that he thought there was a connection above football. I gently let him know that I was seeing someone, and wasn’t interested. Dave was lovely and we went back to being “group text” friends. Yet, at least once a month I get sent a random meme/thought/suggestion we get together.

U Up?
Raise your hand if you’ve been haunted by an ex. We all have. From the “I miss you” text to the un-orginal “U Up?”, there’s always a feeling when someone is about to reappear. (Apparently the kids now call it “Zombie-ing”) These pop-ups can be pleasant, or down right scary (depending on the ex). I have a friend who has a theory, they all come back. And most of the time, she’s right.

So, I would love to know : who’s an ex that’s haunted you?

Wishing us all a haunting free week and amazing shoes! XO RA

Pink Power

a woman in a hot pink dress, hot pink tights and hot pink boots
woman in a hot pink dress, tights, boots and gloves
a woman in a hot pink dress, tights, boots and gloves
a woman in a hot pink dress, tights and boots

Every October I do at least one post in a pink outfit. It started as a way to chat about breast cancer for Breast Cancer Awareness Month (please go get your mammogram. I’m also talking to myself- as that’s on my to-do list. And it’s easy to out off. But we can’t wear amazing things if we’re not here! Wanna be accountability buddies and make our appointments?) I’ve had so much fun each year coming up with pink outfits and “celebrating” (I know that’s not the word but I can’t really put my finger on what is) the month. Yet, ironically, if you were to ask me, I’d tell you that I’m not really a pink person.

But the thing about pink is- it can grow on you. And, like anything else, once I’ve found my shade of pink, it’s became one of my favorites. Hot pink is the pink for me- from gowns to suits, it has snuck throughout my closet so it’s almost a neutral. Perhaps, when I would say that I’m not a pink person I meant the stereotypical pink- over sweet, a bit timid, a bit young. The thing that I’m learning is that pink is power. Wearing it makes me feel powerful, the hot pink is a symbol of my power, and when you get to have fun like this how could you not want to indulge in your own pink power?

a woman in a hot pink dress, tights, boots, and gloves
And yes, this year’s pink outfit is a play on the Zendaya Valentino campaign and the hot pink looks that are everywhere. I’ve had this pink dress for years (it was one of my first hot pink purchases!). The boots were also from season’s past, every so often I think about culling them from my closet, but they bring me so much joy that I could never part with them. And it turns out my instinct was right (and maybe gives strength to the argument that everything comes back and you shouldn’t get rid of things!). The tights and gloves were simple purchases, and super easy to find! Putting my own take on the look of the moment was so incredibly fun- and once again the pink was powerful!

a woman in a hot pink dress and tights and boots and gloves
a woman in a hot pink dress, tights, boots, and gloves
a woman in a hot pink dress with tights, boots, and gloves

One of the things that changed my stance about pink, and power, besides how great it looks, was that I realized that my power- the things that make me special from my sarcasm to how I cry easily to my ability to make leopard work with anything- is my own. My power can be soft, it can be chic, and can be pink. What do you wear when you need to feel powerful? What’s your stance on pink?
And when is your mammogram?

I’ve linked similar shoes and dresses for your shopping pleasure below! Both the tights and gloves were found on Amazon if you want those as well!
XO RA

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Fashion Stories: Wedding Guest

a woman in a teal and gold lame dress under string lights

One of my first posts in this series was about wedding dresses (and how we hang onto them and why) while wearing my great-great-grandma’s wedding dress (you can read about it here). So, in a way, it seems a bit full circle that I’m now writing about being a wedding guest (and what I wore and why) for a recent family wedding.

Let’s be honest: weddings are a great ritual, a great party, a great time and a stressful event for many. Recently my cousin got married (and I’m not sharing pics as it’s not my news but let me say that she was STUNNING and that the event- from top to bottom- by a lake, with gold Dinos as decorations, with family dancing- was just perfect), and like anyone else, I worried about what to wear to the wedding.

I was not a part of the bridal party, but I am who I am, and knowing that Id see family that I don’t often to visit with, when my invitation said “cocktail”, I knew that I wanted to look special (and not upstage the bride). So, below, from lunch with cousins to wedding to the morning after brunch (of which I was a hostess), I break down what I wore and why. Weddings are big stories- for all of us. I hope my choices help you in similar situations, or just inspire you to get dressed up!

Cousins Lunch
a woman in a white silk shirt and lilac corduroy pants with snakeskin mules

The day before the wedding, I had lunch with come cousins I hadn’t been able to catch up with in years! A casual affair, yes, but I wanted to look my best! My choice? A silk shirt with corduroy pants. Easy, seasonal, and yet chic- this combo would work with any color combo (I happened to choose purple and white for my college colors and CFB season!) and while I choose a chic flat, from boots to heels almost any shoe will do!

What I love: it’s easy and yet elegant. Super on point with textures, and easy to customize with colors and shoes!

What I would do differently: I did feel a bit undone. A belt would help, or adding more jewelry!

Wedding
a woman in a teal and gold lame dress on rocks by a lake

You may have read about this dress here. It’s new (to me, vintage Hanea Mori) and when I got it, I knew that I had to wear it to the wedding. I felt as if it were perfect- fallish colors, midi length, long sleeved, and cocktail. But not overpowering – it wasn’t a gown, it’s a cocktail dress- and with the right gold shoes and jewelry, I felt like I nailed it!

What I love: everything. Everything about this dress. The fit. The color. Invite me to all your events so I can wear it again! I also felt like it wasn’t so over the top that I upstaged anyone (the last thing I would want to do!) but yet felt so good in it (and got a ton of compliments!).

What I would change: Not. A. Thing.

Morning After Brunch

a woman in a Dino print button down with sleeves rolled up and black jeans

For the morning after brunch, I knew that I needed something casual (yet chic), and I wanted to make a nod to the happy couple! As the table decorations at the reception were decorated with gold painted Dinos I felt as if a Dino shirt would be incredibly appropriate! Paired with a “nice” pair of jeans (and un-pictured amazing shoes!), it was a hit!

What I loved: Such an inside joke and felt like a cute outfit, even when I was “working”

What I would change: I loved the outfit but as we had to clean before and after the brunch I wish I had brought non-high waisted comfy pants and something I didn’t care about getting dirty for that!

I was very lucky as I didn’t have to travel for this wedding, meaning that if I put something on and it didn’t work I had my entire closet at my disposal. I know that’s not always the case, so a few of my wedding guest dressing tips:

-Plan in advance and take a backup. You just never know!
-Comfort and chic-ness are key. Yes, you want to impress everyone you haven’t seen in ages, but you want to move and dance, etc, with ease. There is a balance to be found!
-Look your best but adhere to the “rules”. Usually this means no white dresses, no overdressing, no upstaging the bridge, etc
-Have fun! Weddings are for the couple- and for families! Enjoy it all, from the event to what you wear!

What have you worn to recent weddings and what concerns about wedding dressing do you have? I would love to help you out with them and hear all about it!

XO RA