Author: RachelAdelicia

Actress, avid shopper, and a lover of fashion. Hoping to make the world a better place one pair of shoes at a time.

Sunday Chronicles: Why is Change so Hard?

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Can we be honest? Change is hard. Even the change that you want can be hard (ask my hair dresser, I freak out almost every time). And yet–none of us want to stay in the same place forever, right? I would say most of us want to be better versions of ourselves, to have amazing things happen to us, to reach for things, but getting out of our comfort zones can be difficult. Or maybe that’s just me. Say it’s not just me.

Spring is know as the beginning season. Flowers bloom, things start again, and we change. I know that I am changing right now–and some are great and some are scary. I have absolutely no answers but I can tell you 3 things that are helping me get through all the change.

1. Things are going to be okay.

They are. They most likely won’t look like how we think they might, but things have a way of working out for the best. I think our job is just to trust; as my grandma would say a positive attitude makes up for a lot.

2. Be okay with not knowing.

Internet friends this one is a struggle for me daily. I want to know things–all the things. But sometimes, when we’re going through things, we don’t. I’m trying to get comfortable not having an answer in mind, in seeing what happens, in not knowing. Some days are easier than others, but the more I can tell myself it’s okay not to know–it becomes okay not to know.

3. Be compassionate and kind–to yourself

Change is hard. I don’t think being mean to yourself or beating yourself up helps in any way. Just like a friend going through something needs your support, you need your support. So be kind to you–take care of you. If you need a night with friends, a glass of wine, or even new shoes, try to treat yourself like you would a friend.

Hopefully this spring brings for us a summer of changes that were worth it. And if we don’t like it, hey, we can always change again, right?

Wishing you a week of self kindness and amazing shoes! xo RA

Wardrobe WorkHorse: The Art Dress

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There is simply no other item in my closet that’s as versatile than this Rodebjer “Art Dress”. It buttons down the front, back and sides–meaning that you can wear it almost any way you can imagine it! My favorites include open over jeans, twisted, as a shirt dress, over shorts and as a jacket–and in every variation it’s super comfy!

Pictured: Rodebjer Art Dress

3×1 Jeans

Coach Shoes

Jean Michael Cazabat shoes

Zara Shorts

Renvy Sandals

70s Vibe

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All over the runways are images from the 70s– but not the tacky, disco images. We are being treated to the best of the 70s– flare jeans, platforms, lux safari– and the better news is that most of this is flattering on every figure. I will say it again–the great thing about trends is you do what’s right for you, but let’s say there are a lot of great pieces to mix and match this year!

Outfits:

One: Vintage jumpsuit, Club Monaco bustier, Jeffrey Campbell platforms

Two: MIH flare jeans, Tibi tunic, Prada clogs

Three: Custom AA Vintage Caftan www.aavintedge.com , Kelsi Dagger Platforms

Sunglasses : Raybans

Sunday Chronicles: Is being effortless something you should aspire to?

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There is a myth, or ideal really, that most American women–especially those who love fashion adhere to; that being “French”, or effortless is something to aspire to being. That somehow to be able to throw on anything and have it look perfect,to have your hair fall perfectly everyday; that it is possible to not really try and that you will look perfect and things will work out. And here’s the thing–this is true sometimes. We all have days where our hair is somehow perfect, and no matter what we put on it looks great, our careers and relationships just seem to click and flow; and everything requires minimal effort. I do love effortless days–they make everything seem easy and doable.

On the other hand, the great Tom Ford has said “Dressing well is a form of good manners”. I’m not saying to dress well and being effortless are mutually exclusive–but as much as we strive for effortless, let’s be honest–we all experience the other side of the coin too. We all have days where we have to think about what we wear, try on many options–put effort into our clothes. We have days where we have to spend time on hair and make-up, maybe put in extra effort into our relationships and career because it is needed. Is this effort a bad thing? Hopefully it pays off– and let’s be honest , there are times when putting in the effort is fun, it feels good to try sometimes.

So are these the only two options–putting in effort or being effortless? Are there the types of people who have to try and those who don’t? I don’t have all the answers–I know, that bums me out too. I  do think that all of us are both of these types though. I believe that we are all capable of effortless days–and all have days where effort is required. Here’s the big epiphany- I don’t think that one is better than the other.  Days where everything from your t-shirt to hair to relationship and career just work are amazing and you should cherish them. Days where you have to think and try for your outfit, lipstick, conversations and meetings are also amazing and you should cherish them.

Maybe effort and effortless are two sides of the same coin; maybe we need one to appreciate the other. Maybe aspiring to effortless is something you should do; maybe trying, even trying too hard occasionally, is something you should do too. All I know is that both can feel good–and that both kinds of days can be good. So this is my wish for us all: great days this week–whether that means you have to put effort into your hair or not.

xo RA

 

 

 

 

Caped

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There’s a reason why capes have been a mainstay for the past few seasons–they are endlessly chic and comfortable. I bought this one on ebay, it’s supposed to be a dress, but on me it’s a tunic. Pairing it with ripped jeans leads an easy vibe and together I feel all pulled together.

Jeans: Jcrew

Top: Ebay

Clutch and broach : Vintage

Shoes: Loubiton

Sunglasses: Raybans