Sunday Chronicles: How Are You Sleeping?

Investment Piece: how are you sleeping?

How are you sleeping right now? Sleep and me? We’ve never had the easiest relationship. My mom will tell you that I started sleeping a straight 12 hrs at about a month old– but it was the 12 hours between 3a and 3p.

While that was eventually worked out, I’ve always had a hard time going to sleep, staying asleep, and was never a good napper. So, now that the world is a little crazy, sleep comes and goes for me. I seem to have no middle. There are nights when I am wiped by 9:30 and I crawl into bed in whatever I have on. There are nights when I can’t seem to sleep and it’s 2a and I’m watching “The Golden Girls”.

In fact, my entire schedule seems to be that way- days when I can stick to it, days when everything goes out the window. And my fashion too. Days when I’m dressed and look cute. Days when I’m in a combo of pjs and workout pants.

(It’s another post, but yes I’m trying to set rituals and schedules- if you have any tips, I’m all ears!)

Suffice to say, there are days when I’m exhausted and am constantly looking for ways to sleep better, and to look more chic while I do it. I came across this article, The Allure of the Nap Dress by Rachel Syme. She details the Nap dress (yes, there’s a dress called the nap dress) and the company that makes it; but most importantly the allure of sleep that wearing a dress like a nap dress can bring. (Aka the romance and sleepiness of it). I was intrigued.

By no means is THE Nap dress the only nap dress, though I have also been stalked by that one. Nap dresses (for me) bring to mind the Sleeper dresses (like this one), pj dressing (which we know I’m a fan of, see here for starters), and the ardent hope that dressing for bed all the time would make me sleep better.

Since I’ve been thinking about “nap dresses” (and yes, all of a sudden everyone calling all their dresses nap dresses has started. Or at least, I’ve started noticing it), nap dresses have been popping up everywhere I look. Vintage ones. New ones. One’s from Target and ones from Neimans. Dresses that you could just nap in and dresses made for napping.

What story is told when we dress for a nap during the day? This week, we’re looking into it. From new dresses to vintage ones, I’m taking a look at dresses that will make me look chic and hopefully make me sleep better. Im excited to have you join me!

Wishing us all a week of good sleep and amazing shoes!
Xo RA

Sunday Chronicles: Gratitude

Loves, there is so much going on right now. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, and it’s easy to feel down. For years I’ve been a fan of keeping a gratitude journal- listing at least 5 things a day that I’m grateful for; my practice isn’t perfect, but I love that it helps me focus on how much good there is. For many reasons, this week seemed hard and I’ll be honest I didn’t know what to say about it. So, I’m choosing to share 5 things that I’m grateful for and excited about.

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Face Mask Chains
Investment Piece: Gratitude

Face masks are so important to wear right now, and I’m a fan of making them fashion! I made a chain for when I need to take mine off and on, simply by adding a jewelery clasp to each end of a tortoise chain. I’m loving some of the masks here. How are you making your mask your own?

New Notebooks
Investment Piece: gratitude list
I grew up in a household that loved school supplies. I’m no longer bound by the school year, but I still get a thrill when I get a new notepad or pen. (I’m also an avid list maker and these make me feel I will be able to get everything done!) Shop these here

Patio
Investment Piece: Sunday Chronicles

We all know that I love my pool! But, I’m working on redoing the entire back patio to make it more company friendly, and a place to relax. It’s not the beach, but I’m grateful for a little place of peace.

Sangria
Investment Piece: Gratitude
Every week I’ve been making a cocktail and wearing a caftan over on Instagram- and it’s so much fun! (You can join me @racheladelicia, and Cocktails&Caftans happens every Saturday!) This week the whole family got into it. We made sangria, made gazpacho for dinner, made a night out of it. Having something to look forward to and have fun with has been a highlight during this time!

Pink Hair
Investment Piece: Gratitude

Not everyone in the house loves it, and it’s by no means permanent, but it’s been a fun thing to play with!

We are so lucky and there’s so much to be grateful for, even as we work towards a better world. When was the last time you sat down and thought about all the little things you’re grateful for?

Wishing us all a week of good luck and amazing shoes!
XO RA

Sunday Chronicles: Day Off

Investment Piece: Day Off

It’s summer times, but the living might not be easy. The pandemic, and all the layers that comes with that, the fight for social justice and all that comes with that. I’ve been working from home for years, with a weird schedule to boot, but I have to admit that the current times–between work and caring, I’m a little exhausted.

This week I’ve found myself saying “I’m home more than ever but I’m busier that ever. I feel like I’m always running and always behind and always tired. What I wouldn’t give for a day off!”

Lately, days off have felt come to come by, so I got to thinking: what would a day off look like? What would I do with it? Would I read all day? Watch TV? Sit in the pool? How would I recharge?

I feel like I always have something to do work or home and all the other facets that make up my life. One day off, without work to do or a home project to accomplish might just be the rest I need. So, I decided to give myself one.

What am I going to do? I’m not sure. I just know that I need to relax. Books, movies, naps, drinks by the pool, I might do them all or nothing at all.

What do you do with a day off? What are you doing right now to relax and recharge yourself?

Wishing us all a week with days off and amazing shoes!
Xo RA

Sunday Chronicles: Taking up Space

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In light of all the world events, protests, revolutions, and my wanting to be a better ally I’ve been thinking a lot about my voice. And how to best use it. The thing is: I’m not always comfortable speaking up or taking up space. I was raised to be “nice” and not “make trouble” and “please everyone”. But the fact is none of those things are really possible. Some trouble is good. I (and you) deserve to be heard. And nice isn’t always the best policy. So. I’m working on it. And while my thoughts here are from a few years ago, reflecting on how I can take up space this week helped me. Hope it helps you! XO RA

Sometimes topics come and hit you over the head, forcing you to pay attention to them. This week I was minding my own business, cruising the internet, when out of no where this article and this article kept popping up, on repeat. A sign? Maybe, maybe not; but when articles appear, I read them.

A note–I am one of those who have a hard time asking for the space I need (unless we are driving an then just try to sway into my lane–you have a horn coming). I believe in courtesy, compassion, and sharing-but a long line of waiting for others to recognize that I may need leg room/arm room/a seat has taught me that you have to take your space–others won’t give it to you. And yes, there are societal and gender issues at play; there are different types of space and different issues that surround each of them. I could write about them all but want you to not be reading till Monday! So, for today, let’s talk physical space–we can deal with other issues another day.

So space. We all need it– be it on a subway, an arm rest, on an airplane. So why do some of us have such a hard time asking for it? There are those who don’t–and yes, as a member of the former group I can be in awe, envy, and sometimes hate those who seem to take up all the space they need (and sometimes more) without a thought or care. Are those people inherently bad or selfish? I like to think not (yes, I could write about those who probably are). Some people just naturally take up space. I, personally, don’t–and it’s not that I don’t need it. I’m tall, I like to spread out as much as the next person, and know I deserve the sidewalk or public space as much as the next person. And it’s not that I don’t take space–it’s just that if others are taking up space (manspreaders, etc) or if the space is in debate (shared armrests), I tend to defer-not ask for space, let the other person have it.

So why? If I know I have a right to the space, why do I, and others like me, have a hard time asking for it? Maybe we expect people to notice what we need and give it to us–which has never worked for me. Maybe it’s years of training to be nice and not demand things–I’m a Southern woman, I know this. Maybe it’s a combination, maybe other issues come into play.  I don’t know.

I do know that I believe every single one of us deserves to take up all the space we need. And if people aren’t going to give it to us, we’re going to have to take it. Is this hard for me? Yes, but the good news is we can do hard things. So this week I’ve gone out of my way to take up the space I need. A guy at the movies had his legs spread wide, I willed myself to say “Excuse me” (not “I’m sorry”, another issue), and even though I had to say it twice, he moved. At the gym I stood my ground and held my space at the mirror while getting ready. Moon-landing accomplishments? No. But a start. This doesn’t mean my voice doesn’t shake sometimes, or I find it easy; but if other people are asking for the space they deserve, why shouldn’t I?

Here’s the secret guys, there is enough space for all of us. And if you aren’t getting what you need, you are going to have to ask for it. I’d love to know–is this something you struggle with? How do you deal with it?

Wishing us all a week of space and amazing shoes! XO RA

Sunday Chronicles: Summer Plans

My loves, I look forward to summer every year. And this year will be different. But different doesn’t always mean better or worse, just not the same. With that in mind I’m planning things to look forward to, from my kiddie pool in the backyard to a virtual tour of Paris, these are my ideas. I would love to know yours!

Wishing us all a week of different and amazing shoes!
Xo RA

Sunday Chronicles: Birthday

Investment Piece: Birthday

It’s a big weekend here at my house. My mom’s birthday. Mother’s Day (which can be a hard day for so many. If you’re hurting, if this day is painful, I’m wishing you peace). And today is my birthday! Things are a bit different this year. No big parties, which I’m very ok with. A little more introspection. But still a lot of champagne. While I can’t be with everyone I love today, I’m so grateful for all of my friends, family, and you!

This week I’m wishing us all peace, love, and amazing shoes! Xo RA

Sunday Chronicles: Me Time

Investment Piece: Sunday Chronicles

How crazy has it been for you? How are you feeling?

Over here there are good days and bad days. Ups and downs. One thing I’m needing? A day off. We’re at home, yes, but between the news, work, family, and all the things it feels like I go non-stop. So today? I’m taking me time. Maybe I’ll pamper myself- I need to do my roots and nails. Or maybe I’ll sleep. Or watch movies. But I’m giving myself permission to take a day for me.

If  you need the same, here’s your permission. We’ll meet up and compare notes!

 

Wishing us all a week of needs met and amazing shoes! XO RA