Luxury

Investment Piece: Luxury
Investment Piece: Luxury
Investment Piece: Luxury

What do you consider luxury? True luxury, worth every penny, makes you sigh luxury?

For me? There’s certain clothes and silk-silks and a perfect fitting heel come to mind. Deep,dark chocolates. The really good goat cheese. The first sip of fantastic champagne.

But what I’ve been thinking about lately are the luxuries that we can’t buy:
-Not having to set an alarm
-The comfortable silence you can have with someone you love
-A weekday afternoon off (I used to love going to a matinee and having those hours alone!)
-Alone Time

I’m sure that there are so many that aren’t coming to mind.
Why am I thinking about luxury? Because the longer we’re home, the more I crave it. Not just the things, but the experiences. The time with people I care about. And the more I want to wear luxury (I write this in yoga pants but I’m at the same time over yoga pants. Here’s hoping all my Juxatipositons are a luxury!)

Investment Piece: Luxury

I’ve been seeking out pieces like this to wear. Silk. Gold. But still lounge wear.
And I’ve been seeking out little luxuries I can give myself at home. Bubble baths. Fancy water.
It’s not the same. Sometimes it’s better, sometimes it’s worse. Luxuries don’t make everything better, but I think they are needed. There’s something about a little quiet, a little silk that makes the day easier to get through. And if we’re gonna get through the day, we may as well make it as luxurious as we can. Right?

I would love to know: what’s your definition of luxury? How are you giving it to yourself right now?

This dress is vintage, but I’ve linked similar options for your shopping pleasure below!
Xo RA

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Investment Piece: Luxury

New Day

Investment Piece: New Day
Investment Piece: New Day
Investment Piece: New day
Investment Piece: New Day

We’re officially into the new year. (It’s almost scary that we’re almost in the second month!)
Maybe you’re all in on the new year, speeding ahead, getting things, done and it’s all great.
Or, maybe it’s been a lot, you still feel like you’re behind, and it’s still not feeling shiny and new for you.

And if you’re in the middle of those two things- join the club! This week felt like there was a shift in energy, I’m feeling hopeful about what’s to come, I’m excited about so much! And I’m still so tired. On Thursday I hit a wall, nothing was wrong, but I just didn’t have the energy to do anything. It didn’t help that it was grey outside, trying to rain but not succeeding. When I feel that low I do one of two things–let myself rest as I trust that my body is trying to tell me something, or I get way dressed up and trust that dressing like I’m full of energy will make me full of energy.

Option 2 didn’t work. Tired, achy, just out of it- an outfit couldn’t fix it. (Though long term I do believe in fashion!) When I hear the term “new day” I always think of change and big things. The doing of things. The start of things.

Maybe yesterday was a day of rest. But today? It’s a new day. I promised myself that if I let myself rest yesterday, today I would start. Do the things. Wear all the outfits. Get going. Let it all be new and shiny. (I’ll be sharing all of it with you!)

Investment Piece: New Day

These pictures are from a few January’s ago. There’s something about the ocean that makes me feel calm and grounded, and also makes me believe in the future. It’s my happy place. Polka dots also make me happy-classic but modern, and very hopeful. I’m excited for all the new things to come. I’m grateful for this new day. Now, to go get dressed in it!

How is your new year going? How are you feeling? What are you wearing?

Xo RA

This set is vintage but I’ve linked polka dots I love below!

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Closet Organization

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Usually, around this time, we would be talking about cleaning out our closets. I would pull out all my things and go through them, weed out what no longer serves me, and either give it away or sell it.

I detail my process here and here. I write a lot about cleaning out your closet- not because I love it- but because I think it’s a more complicated than just getting rid of things. Search closet in the search bar!

Honestly? This year I have no emotional bandwidth to clean out my closet. I haven’t since the pandemic started. It’s not that I can’t identify clothes that aren’t fitting my life, in some cases me, or that may need to be let go of. But I am in no way ready or able to deal with all of that. Because I don’t know how long all of this will last. Because I know that I don’t make great choices when I’m super emotional, and I know that right now going through my closet would be emotional.

So, if you’re in the same spot- it’s ok. There’s no deadline on cleaning out. There’s no mandate that you have to do it. Now may not be the time to clean out your closet. For me it isn’t. And that’s aok!

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While I’m not cleaning out my closet, what very much sounds good to me is closet organization. I want to know where all my things (treasures) are. I want that space to be efficient and help me get dressed easily.
How am I going about that? Almost the same way that I clean out! I’m dividing my clothes into sections (for me it’s vintage (both day and dressy)/dresses/tops/pants/skirts/bags/shoes- and it grows from there. I’m looking at turning a room into a closet- with all the shelves and more that I need. There’s an accounting of what I need (space) and what serves me (being able to see all my things), and see what works.

I’m not showing you now, as this is a work in progress, and to be very honest I’m not 100% sure what it’s looking like. But I know getting my ducks (shoes) in a row will help me feel better.

What about you? Are you cleaning out? Organizing? A combination of the two? How’s it going? What are you learning? Tell me everything!

I’m linking closet organization systems below that I’m thinking of using in my own closet!

Xo RA

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MLK Sales

Perhaps this 3 day weekend has been a bit more subdued (there’s nothing wrong with subdued!), but while we’re here we might as well shop! Below are my faves from sales here and there!

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Everything is 15% off at H&M. My top picks? Sweater vest and the black/white set!
Shop my picks here<\a>

Investment Piece: MLK Sales
Get 40% off all tops at Anthropologie! I love the different takes on a chambray top and button-downs with patterns. Shop my picks
here

Investment Piece: MLK Sales
Get up to 80% off at Moda Operandi. My faves? That vegan leather jumpsuit is under $200, and I’ve been thisclose to buying the snake skin boots since Sat!
Shop them here

Investment Piece: MLK Sales
Everything is 25% at Frame Denim! Did you love the jeans in this post? Now you can get them at a discount!
Shop all my picks here

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Get up to 30% off (and free shipping) at Carbon38! I love the white leggings with gold snake print, and their lounge sets are divine!
Shop it all:

Investment Piece: MLK Sales
I had to include a shoe sale! Get an extra 20% off sale at Sam Edelman with code BESTOFSALE. It’s no surprise that I love all the boots, and also the square toed pumps!
Shop all my picks here

What are you buying? I’m trying to stick to a budget, but please act surprised when you see outfits posts made of some of the picks here!

Xo RA

Panicked

Investment Piece: Panicked
Investment Piece: Panicked
Investment Piece: panicked

What a wild, wild week. We started with snow and I felt like everything was gonna be ok. Then the week happened- and while it was not bad, it was a lot. I shoot some looks, but ended up not being happy with most of the pictures we got, or the outfits, or anything. Which left me panicked.

That suddenly, I wasn’t good at outfits or my job. A jolt when fashion is something I love and like to think I’m good at. But,you know when you get a little panicked it can lead to a big panicked? Yes. That was me. I know that my panicky feelings were an overreaction.
(At least that’s what I’m telling myself. It was one group of pictures! And there’s so much going on right now, I know that my panic could be about so many things.)
But, sometimes panic doesn’t listen to reason (or fashion).

So, what do we do when we’re panicked?

Investment Piece: Panicked
Investment Piece: Panicked
Investment Piece: Panicked

Some general panicked advice? Breathe (in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4). An acting coach once taught us to look around the room and name things by their color instead of their name (i.e. If you see a clock you don’t say clock you say silver -or whatever color it is. This makes your brain focus and work different patterns and it calms you. I use it in auditions or crazy presentations- it helps!). There’s a tapping method that’s supposed to calm your nervous system.
I’ve also been known to panic shop, and while no expert will tell you this, I think it can help in certain circumstances.

Panic is a funny thing. I was so upset–and then. I wasn’t. Yes, in the meantime I made some tea and shut everything off and watched a comfort show (Schitt’s Creek). Maybe the acts or the time, but when I looked back at the pictures (yes, these are some of them), while they aren’t my FAVES (and I can name you a million things that I wanted to be different), they aren’t the WORST either.
Isn’t it weird what panic can make you think?

There’s a lot going on. And not all panic is bad- in danger it can give you strength, etc. Maybe the trick is learning to use our panic, and knowing when it’s lying to us, and then knowing how to get rid of it.
I love this collared sweater- and while perhaps different bottoms would have been a better choice, this shoot taught me some things about my camera and me. And now that the panic is gone, I can snuggle down!

I hope that this week you were kind to yourself. And loving. And if/when you were panicked you were able to find calm.
Xo RA

I’ve linked similar pieces and these jeans below!
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Get What You Need

Investment Piece: Get What You Need
Investment Piece: Get What You Need
Investment Piece: Get What You Need

Some truths about me:
I over pack and think nothing of changing my outfit a million times a day.
I believe in magic. And not just the Disney kind, but the kind that puts you in the right place at the right time for the right thing.
I’m obessed with snow. Like 5yo obessed.

Outfits I can do. Magic comes.
But snow? I live in Texas and California, I don’t get a lot of snow.

Then. Yesterday, we got so much snow! (Ok, not for real winter-y places, but we got over an inch. It stuck! It actively snowed for a long time!) Magical is the only word I know to describe it. I couldn’t stop watching it, playing in it, taking pictures of it.

Investment Piece: Get What You Need
Investment Piece: Get What You Need

All during the holiday season, I wanted snow. This was not how I thought it would happen. But this snow was what I needed.

And getting what I needed made me face some more truths about myself.
First- I have no idea what to wear for snow. I ran around in everything from sweats to fur jackets to my rain boots. If you live where it snows reguarly and you wear outfits- I would LOVE to know what you wear! I feel like I’ve been missing out on snow outfits!
Second- getting what you need is magic. How else can you explain events that come out of no where and refuel you? Re-energize you? Let you know it’s gonna be ok. Maybe it’s not snow for everyone, but those moments when the world just seems better? I hope that this weekend has one for you.

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And,yes. Because of who I am as a person, part of my snow day did involve vintage sweater tights. I don’t know that they’re the ultimate in snow dressing–but I tried!!

What fed your soul this weekend? How did you get what you need? And–what did you wear??

Xo RA

This fur coat is vintage! (It’s the only way to fur!) I’ve linked some similar vintage finds and some modern faux fur options!

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Looking for Light

Investment Piece: Looking for Light
Investment Piece: Looking for Light
Investment Piece: Looking for Light

We’re through the first week of the new year, and yet doesn’t it feel like it’s been much longer? If you’re in the States it’s a lot right now. The pandemic is raging, almost 4,000 people are dying a day, and there’s been no national strategy to deal with the grief. On Wednesday, there was a group of domestic terrorists who stormed the Capital in DC. And on top of that, I’ve been sick (not a group issue, but in the middle of all the other issues it’s felt much bigger than my little body aches normally would).

There have been a few times when I haven’t know what to say here on the site, or how to deal with big events. It’s not that I don’t think fashion matters or that fashion is disconnected from the stories we’re telling. I do. And it’s not that I don’t have opinions or view points, believe me I do.
However, there is still a part of me that doesn’t know what to say- acknowledge all the things, go all in on the things, or ignore all the things and keep this space as a pure respite.
I know that there is not a right answer, but the balance has been weighing on me.

Investment Piece: Looking for Light
Investment Piece: Looking for Light
Investment Piece: Looking for Light

Part of the promise and appeal of a new year (for me at least), is the light. Not a chance to completely redo ourselves, but evolve a bit, and reach for the light a little bit more. All of the things – the pandemic, the riot, the sick? In it all, I’ve been wanting more light. Not the little kid version where things are magically ok (though if you can do that, I’m all in!), but the light where we actively turn and choose the good. Sometimes the light takes work.

I got a light set and backdrop for Christmas (I’m really excited about it). What I’ve learned so far? I can’t just turn on the light- I have to angle towards it, set up more than one, adjust to it. A metaphor? Here’s hoping. I have no answers for all the things that we’re facing, but know that we’ll need to work together and to work towards the light.

Be kind. Wear your mask. Face the truth. Take your allergy meds. And here’s to us reaching for the light.
Thank you for your patience for me while I find our voice in these times, if there is anything you would like to see in this space, I’m all ears!
Xo RA

This is where I feel weird-but if you want to shop these outfits, I can help with that!
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Investment Piece: looking for light
This dress is vintage but I found you options here

And here are some similar knits and skirts:

Fashion Stories: Holiday Pjs

Investment Piece: Holiday PJs

My family has a tradition, matching pjs on Christmas Eve. It’s the one “present” we can open early, we change into them right away, and stay up drinking champagne, laughing and enjoying each other. I know that we had matching pjs at different times growing up-there’s pictures of my sister and I in them- but this tradition has grown stronger as we’ve gotten older.

It’s currently one of my favorite times and things of the holiday season.

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This year has been- all of those things. (Are you tired of hearing about it? I am) Lounge wear, fancy pjs, all those things have been staples all year, so I’ve been worried that one of my favorite things would also be a causality of 2020. This time of year, when so much shuts down and in a “normal” time it’s fun to stay in pjs are we going to want pjs? Celebrate being in them? Or will this tradition be tossed aside in the coming years as we (hopefully) don’t have to stay in?

Investment Piece: Holiday Pjs

My family ordered our pjs. And though there are days when putting on real pants is noteworthy, I’m excited about them. Holiday pjs aren’t just pjs, they’re part of a story, a tradition, something bigger than just comfort. Though comfort they do bring.
The minute we decided on a pattern, I started getting excited. Maybe I’ve been more casual this year, but holiday pjs are a part of my holidays as an adult, and I’m glad that we’re still doing them.

Note-holiday or fancy pjs are a great gift to yourself, and would even be festive on Zoom!

This year there are traditions that have to change, and while change can be hard it can also be good. However, knowing that I can match my mom and sister is something I’m glad we’re hanging onto!

I’d love to know- what are some of your fashion traditions at this time of year? Have they changed?
Xo RA

If you’re in need of some holiday pjs I love these from Target (and you can order online, pick up in store so you can get them in time!)

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Celebrating at Home

Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home

Wanna hear a secret? All the cool kids have been celebrating NYE at home for years.
I love a crowd and a party and most importantly a party dress, but NYE out has never been my favorite.
The crowds are overwhelming, the lines are long, the champagne is expensive. One of the worst NYE I ever had? Someone puked all over my new shoes (which I still miss!)! Not something I want to repeat.

So. NYE at home. You get to be with the people who really matter. You get to do what you want- fancy dinner, take-out, games, movies, stay up all night, go to bed early, anything you like.
My fave? Movies, champagne, close friends, and food to fit the mood- we’ve had everything from charcuterie boards to risotto to brisket. At home NYE becomes a choose your best adventure.

And that’s in an average year. In this year- with the pandemic- staying home is where it’s at!
You’re keeping you, your loved ones, and your community safe- and it’s fun!

But just because you’re at home doesn’t mean the fashion stops!

Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home

Even when I’m celebrating at home, I like to dress. I’ve been known to come down in anything from gowns to sweats.
Another perk of being at home? You get to wear whatever you want and change whoever you need! Go through 3 outfits and 4 shoes! Mix super high and super low! It’s another choose your own adventure!

This year I’ve been attracted to clothes that look high end but wear like lounge, so I feel in love with this vintage like set from Mia Vesper (not an affiliate link! But they make the clothes from vintage fabric- they’re unisex and are divine. Well worth it!). The set will look great broken up (I can’t wait to wear the top with a camel skirt or black jeans, and a white tee or jean jacket with the pants!) but I love them together.
Fancy. Comfortable.

You could get that going out, but it’s so luxourious staying in. Especially when you’re wearing slippers that read as shoes!

This year I plan on being in this, eating and drinking to my content, and waking up to a much better year. What about you? How are you celebrating at home? And what are you wearing?
Xo RA

I highly recommend all of Mia Vesper but I’ve also linked lame and floral metallics for you below!
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Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home

The Wants

Investment Piece: The Wants

Normally, when I think about the wants, I think about my Wishlist (always have one, it’s usually always long). This year I keep thinking about the things I want to wear. On Monday, I talked about the Shoulds and all the things we may be feeling pressured to wear. Then I spent the next few days in this sweatsuit (which is my new favorite), and workout clothes.

Now, all I want to wear are party dresses.

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Is it a case of wanting what you can’t have? Or wearing things that you have no reason to?
I know that I can put on anything I want any day- there’s no fashion police to come and tell me to change, but I feel like I’m having a hard issue with the Shoulds and the wants this year because no outfit feels earned.

Investment Piece: The Wants

Does that sound crazy? Changing into silk lounge clothes used to feel like a joy after being dressed all day. Getting all dolled up used to be a change, and getting to see people in your clothes felt like part of the fun. Now, we get to decide the Shoulds and do what we want with the wants–and it’s actually amazing, but it can also be overwhelming.

I’ve spent the week dreaming of dresses and party outfits, but wearing sweats and pjs. There was a day when my look went from pjs to yoga pants to pjs. While the wants would have me in a gown, I didn’t make a move to get into anything resembling a “real” outfit.

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So. What do we do when our Shoulds and our wants are all up to us? What do we wear? Especially at a time of year when things are festive and looks can add to that? How do we celebrate if we’re not celebrating what we’re wearing?

As a lover of both the party dress and the sweatsuit I don’t know. There’s no right answer, and the beauty of this time is that whatever feels good is ABSOLUTELY what you should be wearing. For me? I’m still figuring it out. Going to extremes. Wearing party dresses with UGGs and sweats with false eyelashes.
As long as it’s what I want in the moment, it’s not a bad outfit, has been my motto. Next week is the big holiday week, so we’ll see how long that lasts!

What are you wearing? What you want? What you should?

Tell me all about!
Xo RA

I’ve rounded up some of my fave current party dresses and lounge wear- for whatever we want and should wear!

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