Hitting the Ground……

Investment Piece:Hitting the Ground....

It’s the first Monday of the new year. We did it! We got this far…..and now what?
Are you hitting the ground running?
Or just hitting the ground?

I had high hopes for my holiday- a mix of rest, work, getting ahead, starting the new year on the best notes.
And I did rest (turns out I was much more tired than I thought) and I did work. But all the lofty ideas I had? I didn’t get them done.

But I’m not feeling bad about it (I have a whole year and month and week to get everything done), and while I may not be running I did splat on the ground. That’s something, right?

Investment Piece: In my Robe

The most surprising thing to me? How much rest I’ve needed. We’ve been at home most of the year, things are scaled back- and I still am surprised every time I was stressed! 2020 was a hard year. It’s ok that you (me) may need time. It’s ok to ease into the new year.

Or at least that’s what I’m telling myself. I’ve spent most of my holiday letting myself really rest, not getting dressed up, not pushing myself. And though it’s Monday- I’m excited. About this year. What’s to come. All the things I plan on wearing.

Investment Piece: Hitting the Ground....

I’m still working on my goals and my plans and how to get after this year. BUT. I have so many outfits to wear and share (and while I love my sweats, I’m looking forward to getting dressed!), new series to share, and updates to implement. It’s fair that 2020 made us a bit cautious. It’s fair to be moving slow. I’m also feeling hope- and for now, that’s enough.

What are you looking forward to this year? How were your holidays? Are you like me and still moving slow or did you hit the ground running?
I want to hear about all of it!

Xo RA

Fashion Stories: Holiday Pjs

Investment Piece: Holiday PJs

My family has a tradition, matching pjs on Christmas Eve. It’s the one “present” we can open early, we change into them right away, and stay up drinking champagne, laughing and enjoying each other. I know that we had matching pjs at different times growing up-there’s pictures of my sister and I in them- but this tradition has grown stronger as we’ve gotten older.

It’s currently one of my favorite times and things of the holiday season.

Investment Piece: Holiday PJs

This year has been- all of those things. (Are you tired of hearing about it? I am) Lounge wear, fancy pjs, all those things have been staples all year, so I’ve been worried that one of my favorite things would also be a causality of 2020. This time of year, when so much shuts down and in a “normal” time it’s fun to stay in pjs are we going to want pjs? Celebrate being in them? Or will this tradition be tossed aside in the coming years as we (hopefully) don’t have to stay in?

Investment Piece: Holiday Pjs

My family ordered our pjs. And though there are days when putting on real pants is noteworthy, I’m excited about them. Holiday pjs aren’t just pjs, they’re part of a story, a tradition, something bigger than just comfort. Though comfort they do bring.
The minute we decided on a pattern, I started getting excited. Maybe I’ve been more casual this year, but holiday pjs are a part of my holidays as an adult, and I’m glad that we’re still doing them.

Note-holiday or fancy pjs are a great gift to yourself, and would even be festive on Zoom!

This year there are traditions that have to change, and while change can be hard it can also be good. However, knowing that I can match my mom and sister is something I’m glad we’re hanging onto!

I’d love to know- what are some of your fashion traditions at this time of year? Have they changed?
Xo RA

If you’re in need of some holiday pjs I love these from Target (and you can order online, pick up in store so you can get them in time!)

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Celebrating at Home

Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home

Wanna hear a secret? All the cool kids have been celebrating NYE at home for years.
I love a crowd and a party and most importantly a party dress, but NYE out has never been my favorite.
The crowds are overwhelming, the lines are long, the champagne is expensive. One of the worst NYE I ever had? Someone puked all over my new shoes (which I still miss!)! Not something I want to repeat.

So. NYE at home. You get to be with the people who really matter. You get to do what you want- fancy dinner, take-out, games, movies, stay up all night, go to bed early, anything you like.
My fave? Movies, champagne, close friends, and food to fit the mood- we’ve had everything from charcuterie boards to risotto to brisket. At home NYE becomes a choose your best adventure.

And that’s in an average year. In this year- with the pandemic- staying home is where it’s at!
You’re keeping you, your loved ones, and your community safe- and it’s fun!

But just because you’re at home doesn’t mean the fashion stops!

Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home
Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home

Even when I’m celebrating at home, I like to dress. I’ve been known to come down in anything from gowns to sweats.
Another perk of being at home? You get to wear whatever you want and change whoever you need! Go through 3 outfits and 4 shoes! Mix super high and super low! It’s another choose your own adventure!

This year I’ve been attracted to clothes that look high end but wear like lounge, so I feel in love with this vintage like set from Mia Vesper (not an affiliate link! But they make the clothes from vintage fabric- they’re unisex and are divine. Well worth it!). The set will look great broken up (I can’t wait to wear the top with a camel skirt or black jeans, and a white tee or jean jacket with the pants!) but I love them together.
Fancy. Comfortable.

You could get that going out, but it’s so luxourious staying in. Especially when you’re wearing slippers that read as shoes!

This year I plan on being in this, eating and drinking to my content, and waking up to a much better year. What about you? How are you celebrating at home? And what are you wearing?
Xo RA

I highly recommend all of Mia Vesper but I’ve also linked lame and floral metallics for you below!
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Investment Piece: Celebrating at Home

Sunday Chronicles: OOO Messages

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There comes a time in every holiday season where people just call it. No more work is going to get done, no one’s responding, so the OOO (out of office) emails go up and we all move strictly into holiday mode.
Maybe it’s the fact that we need a little cheer.
Maybe it’s all the snow on the East Coast.
Maybe we’re all just ready for this year to be over.

But I’ve noticed that the OOO are already up. People are already switching out of work mode. And it makes sense! This week is a big holiday week. This year has been rough and we’re all ready to start fresh.

I’m finding myself dividing projects into categories- the ones I need to finish this week and the ones I’ll put down and pick back up in January. There’s the end of the year thoughts about what to keep and what to get rid of, about things to do and not do.
Mostly, there’s a need for rest, which sounds so weird as we’ve been home so much more often than in any year past! But yes, rest.

Though I’m thinking of all of that, this isn’t my OOO. Yet. We have new posts coming Monday (tomorrow) and Wednesday. And of course, throughout the next few weeks you can shop sales with me by following me in the LiketoKnowit and ShopStyle Apps (@racheladelica!) Also, there are shoppable pictures in the menu here! But once Friday hits, we’ll be quite here. I’ll be posting some sales picks. And maybe some New Years thoughts, but from 12/25-1/3, we’ll be manly OOO.

Is it a bit preemptive to be thinking about OOO when I won’t be till the end of the week?
I’m not sure. I’m excited about what I’m sharing with you Monday and Wednesday, but am also exited for some days off to rest!

When are you putting your OOO up?
Wishing us all a week of winter cheer and amazing shoes!
Xo RA

The Wants

Investment Piece: The Wants

Normally, when I think about the wants, I think about my Wishlist (always have one, it’s usually always long). This year I keep thinking about the things I want to wear. On Monday, I talked about the Shoulds and all the things we may be feeling pressured to wear. Then I spent the next few days in this sweatsuit (which is my new favorite), and workout clothes.

Now, all I want to wear are party dresses.

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Is it a case of wanting what you can’t have? Or wearing things that you have no reason to?
I know that I can put on anything I want any day- there’s no fashion police to come and tell me to change, but I feel like I’m having a hard issue with the Shoulds and the wants this year because no outfit feels earned.

Investment Piece: The Wants

Does that sound crazy? Changing into silk lounge clothes used to feel like a joy after being dressed all day. Getting all dolled up used to be a change, and getting to see people in your clothes felt like part of the fun. Now, we get to decide the Shoulds and do what we want with the wants–and it’s actually amazing, but it can also be overwhelming.

I’ve spent the week dreaming of dresses and party outfits, but wearing sweats and pjs. There was a day when my look went from pjs to yoga pants to pjs. While the wants would have me in a gown, I didn’t make a move to get into anything resembling a “real” outfit.

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So. What do we do when our Shoulds and our wants are all up to us? What do we wear? Especially at a time of year when things are festive and looks can add to that? How do we celebrate if we’re not celebrating what we’re wearing?

As a lover of both the party dress and the sweatsuit I don’t know. There’s no right answer, and the beauty of this time is that whatever feels good is ABSOLUTELY what you should be wearing. For me? I’m still figuring it out. Going to extremes. Wearing party dresses with UGGs and sweats with false eyelashes.
As long as it’s what I want in the moment, it’s not a bad outfit, has been my motto. Next week is the big holiday week, so we’ll see how long that lasts!

What are you wearing? What you want? What you should?

Tell me all about!
Xo RA

I’ve rounded up some of my fave current party dresses and lounge wear- for whatever we want and should wear!

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Investment Piece: Gift Guide

In Defense of Gift Cards

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There’s a chance that you’ve completed all the gift buying that you’re doing this year, and that all the people on your list have gifts that are thoughtful! There’s also a chance you’re in the thick of it and trying to shop for everyone you’re exchanging gifts with this year.
Either way, you may be thinking that you can’t or shouldn’t or it’s tacky to give gift cards.

Some of my family member think like that- hating to give cash or gift cards. And I have friends who think that gift cards are a lazy gift that show that you don’t care.

Beloveds, those people are wrong. I love gifts! And I love buying gifts for people! But, there’s nothing wrong with a gift card-in fact it’s one of the best gifts to get (in my opinion).

Gift cards usually come in a couple of different ways- a gift card to a store/spa/gym/restaurant that someone knows you love, or one of those “Visa” gift cards, which are basically just money. I love them both.

It’s one of my favorite things when someone pays attention enough to me to pick out something I love. But I also love the freedom and trust that comes when someone gives you the ability to buy yourself something or treat yourself to an experience. Even with wish lists, sharing with people what we love, we all have things that we’d rather just pick out ourselves, and a gift card lets you get yourself something guilt free.

Gift cards are a way to give someone a “thing”, but also freedom and trust. A way to let your loved ones indulge how and when they want to, they’re the gift that keeps giving.

Gift cards are also a way to let your loved ones think of you at least twice- when they get the card and when they use it!

I understand the hesitation to give gift cards, but I truly love them. They are a way to help someone save for something, get something personal, try something new, or just let them shop (which we all know I love!). There has never been a time when I got a gift card and hated it. I think they’re personal and thoughtful and all the best kinds of gifts. And this year especially gift cards to favorite small businesses and restuarants are incredibly great to give and get!

Think about the gift card. Don’t be afraid to give the gift card. It may just be the most thoughtful gift!

(Though if you need more gift suggestions, you can find my gift guide here!)

Happy Gifting!
XO RA

The Shoulds

Investment Piece: The Shoulds

There are a lot of Shoulds this time of year. What we should be doing, feeling, celebrating. Shoulds about eating and gifting and activities.
My least favorite of all the Shoulds?

What we should be wearing. I love fashion. And dressing up. And holiday outfits. For no reason at all, I will dress to the nines and I love all the sparkle, etc, that comes at this time of year. However, I don’t like being told that I should. As much as I love the holiday looks? I also love my sweats and relaxing, wearing what I want instead of what I “should”.

Investment Piece: Essentials

I thought that this year might be different. But it’s not. Even when we’re staying in, we’re being encouraged to dress like we “should” for the holiday season. Plaids, reds, sequins- I love them all! But is it that we want to wear all those things, or are we simply feeling like we should?

Investment Piece: Fashion Stories Holiday Dressing

Would the holidays still be jolly if we dressed how we wanted? If you wore neon or sweats or your swim suit?

With everything upside down this year, I’ve been thinking a lot about the Shoulds. Comparing what I really want to wear on any given day with what I feel like I should. There are days when I’ve come to the living room in one of my party dresses, there have been days when I’ve worn the same leggings that I’ve worn for the previous few days. On both of those days, I’ve gotten things done- even the holiday type things.

Like the Grinch discovering that Christmas isn’t about all the stuff, I’m playing with the idea that holidays aren’t outfit dependant. Not that I’ve changed some of my core beliefs- I still truly believe that fashion tells a story and your outfit can affect your mood.

BUT. I’m thinking about how the holidays are still the holidays when your holiday outfit is a low-key comfy number and not something you should.

Investment Piece: Cinderella

What are you wearing for the holidays? What do you feel like you should be wearing for the holidays? I love a great party dress, so even staying home I’ll probably put one on (for at least a little bit!), but I’m also be jolly in sweats. Not because I should, but because this holiday is one of cozy nights in.
I’d love to know all about your outfits!

I’ve linked some lounge wear I’m loving right now!

Xo RA

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Sunday Chronicles: Holiday Stress

Investment Piece: Holiday Stress

It’s the holiday season! Which means lots of magic and special moments. And it can also mean a lot of stress. There can be endless to-do lists, the house cleaning and decorating, the gift giving, and in the before all the events- parties, etc. Then on top of that, there are all the expectations and the desires to make things perfect. This is such a wonderful time of the year. And this is such a stressful time of the year.

I’ll be honest, I thought that this year might not be as stressful. Due to the pandemic (which yes, is stressful by itself), we’re at home and a lot of the events and “bigness” of the holiday season are naturally cut out. My family is choosing to do things much more laid back, and my friends are doing the same. While, even in the before, I would have told you that a holiday is not measured by how much you get done or the “perfect” way things are done (which let’s be honest, is not a thing), I especially thought that this year could be a respite of holiday stress.

Yet, I’m stressed. Holiday stress. I’m still feeling pressure to be perfect-in how I decorate, the small things I’m doing for others, in work, in everything. Right now nothing feels like it’s enough. Maybe it’s because I thought it would be so easy that things are so stressful? Or maybe I thought that because things were simple this year I could make them “perfect”, therefore putting more pressure on myself?

I’m not sure. We got the tree and lights up this weekend–and they look great! But I worried that we were late. I’m “behind” at work and feeling all sorts of pressure- I have a plan and things will get done, but I’ve been beating myself up about not being ahead or doing more.

In every aspect of my life I’ve been adding pressure and worried that things aren’t enough. I’m not going anywhere, there are no parties, and I’m not even exchanging a ton of gifts. But I’m feeling holiday stress.

If you, as my friend, came to me I would remind you that you are enough, that whatever gets done is enough, that perfect is not a thing, and the best moments are often unplanned and a little silly.
Why is it so hard to say that to ourselves (or myself)?

Because I know that’s true. This season has been full of laid back and special moments that will make this time during a pandemic amazing. There is good here and there is joy. I don’t know how to get rid of the stress, I’ve been working through my to-do list and I’m hoping that helps. I’m reminding myself (more than once daily) that the perfect I’m chasing is a myth and that I can relax (Champagne helps with this). I’m reaching out to friends. And I’m choosing to do things that bring joy.

Let’s see if it works.

Do you have holiday stress? How are you dealing with it? Do you have any tips for dealing with stress?
I’m all ears!

Wishing us all a week of respite and amazing shoes!
Xo RA